why text us but not text back?!!

[weejock]

i am sooo over receiving texts from guys, i answer and then they dont reply!!! wtf!!

i could understand if it was me initiating texts but its not!!

am i that dull at replying that they dont want to answer??

if so then why text me in the first place?!!

beginning of text, an example...

'hey there sexy little minx x thought i would say hi from *

i replied

hey there yourself handsome!! i am officially jealous of you being in *** apart from that i am great!!!

he did reply to say how great was i and that he wanted to know more about me..

i replied

no answer....

WTF....

A relationship doesn't define who someone is, you are so eager to please because you are so desperate to be in a relationship, any relationship as you think it's better then the alternative.

Your male friend is telling you that you throw yourself into a relationship, you are too keen.

I'm off to bed. Sorry.

Bloody hell, if you are allowing people to talk to you in that way, you seriously have a problem. You need to start standing up for yourself. What would you do if someone told that to your best friend? Demand more respect for yourself.

But your friend is right, everyone enjoys a good challenge.

A.] You are a doormat. Please come up with some fabulous things about yourself, which would make a person want to make efforts for you - as differentiated from what would make them feel like you'll make all the effort.

B.] Text is just text. For gods sake. I am so tired of people, having relationship problems, citing texts as examples. Texts just aren't 'rich' enough to get any emotional content from. The hierarchy of meaningful communication goes something like: Face-to-face talk; Phone conversation; Proper letter or email; Text; Postcard.

b4 u jump 2 conclsns, i do most of my comms online (although I use whole words, since predictive text & phone packages made shrt wds rdndnt).

C.] I send people texts when I'm bored. Everybody does. He could even have sent the same text to 30 people at the same time, do you realise that?

D.] You need to grow up. Sorry.

E.] 0800 numbers are the same as 09 numbers - they cost you to send or receive. Usually £1 a time.

in my job i am surrounded by men which i have mentioned before, my problem is that because i am soo easy to please, i am going to end up with i life long loser..

i would realy hate that to happen but sadly it probably will...

grace, i am not having a relationship problem at all, i am not in a relationship.

my whole point was men being unemotional and text shy when it was them who had sent the first text.

i have known for some time and doubly realised after this that i am a doormat, i want everyone in my vicinity to feel at home and relaxed.

i do not feel however that i have to grow up, why should i??

have i displayed a childish view somehow?

i just want a man who is a man to have a laugh with me and enjoy life...

dont think that it too much to ask...

"texters not talkers...."

Sorry - it may be the start of the holidays - I'm staying up late for the first time in months because there's no 6.30am start and all that, but I misread that as...

"stalkers"

Yes m'dear, that is a little weird IMO.

But I am v.v. old! .

Why do you let guys communicate with you in such a disrespectful way if you are looking for any sort of respect-based relationship?

You want a relationship, but you just want a guy who "wants a laugh" with you?

C'mon - you can do better than this - You KNOW you're worth it! Listen to what Grace has to say (she is v. wise and probably more sober than I am right now!)

Weejock, the texts you have been getting are booty calls (booty texts). The men who are sending them are hitting 'send' to their entire list of contacts. When someone they consider a more attractive proposition than you takes the bait, they carry on texting or whatever with her, and ignore all the other replies they get, including yours.

Please, please read "He's Just Not That Into You', by Greg Behrendt, to get a grip on what's going on here and how to interpret the kind of communication you're receiving, as well as how to improve your chances of achieving a real relationship with a nice man, if that's what you want.

You're not an object. If a man I hardly knew called me a "sexy little minx" I'd feel patronised. Sure, tell me you find me attractive, but I'm not a "little" anything. If you go into relationships where a man treats you like a toy, it won't last long. You'll be slotted into the not serious, plaything type category.

Quite right ladies.

Seriously though weejock, there's some sound advice on here. Please listen to it. I really hate the "I give so much to people and get nothing back" speech by the way (not meaning to offend), people who say this normally have no idea at all what other people do for them. Because they can't get what they want (a perfect relationship), they fail to see what is front of their face and fail to see the kindness that the people around them show to them. Do you have a friend who gives you advice? One that brings you coffee/goes shopping with you/lets you borrow a DVD??

Mathanxiety is right- these are just fishing texts.

They say sexy little minx because that saves time. If they had to type a new text and use every woman's name individually, it would take hours. Sexy little minx = So many women, so little time.

Weejock

I sympathise with you, I really do. Been there, done it, worn the t-shirt, made the dinners, been great company, never seen them again.

Yes, the reason why they are texting you and then not texting back after you do is because they are texting a few women at the same time. If they do arrange a date, chances are that they will cancel at last minute because one of their other text recipients confirmed at the last minute too.

Yes, beware anyone not using your name in texts. 'Hun' and 'babe' are good ones for starting off and ending multiple texts too.

Try ignoring the next text - and watch their interest escalate!

Flippin heck. Long time since I've been called a sexy minx!!! I could do with a text like that!

(sit back and wait for the uproar!!!)

Doormat? Thats so wrong.
What about cupcake?