Living with an angry man

[mebaasmum]

How do you deal with living with someone who is constantly angry, DS2 especially seems to not be able to do anything right. The smallest thing like not putting his shoes away is enough for rage. Then he complains ds2 doesnt talk to him!!!. There is alot going on to make DP angry/depressed but its not healthy to live with

hmm Grace I feel for you and you Oflin, I think I have been there (and still am sometimes especially last week of the month :-0)

Sad that the messages still sank in for you even though your mum did try to buffer it to some (useless) extent... My father didn't at all- he would do the abject victim thing of cravenly apologising to her and serving her. I now dislike him more than her for that reason. She has tried to change herself while he just carried on serving and enabling.

One of the things I've always fervently wishes for was to hear him say that he knew how we were feeling and that it wasn't our fault, but he never did that, I had to get there myself through therapy and whatever else. Thus, to me Goosey and others are doing a far better job with their kids than he did. And I'm just not convinced that in EVERY case family breakup is the answer.

Very sorry to hear the sad stories on here also. Hard isn't it to have that kind of upbringing and control your own emotions when you get older. Let alone not feel suicidal a lot of the time

mumonthenet - she is allowing him to abuse her children by accepting what he is doing isn;t that bad and just giving him a telling off - her children will see that she is actually facilitating his behaviour and end up hating her too eventually when they have children of their own and realise what a shocking job she did letting them be yelled at.

point taken grace and madamec. I am not in any way qualified to comment - though I do have some personal experience in the subject.

still think it's an interesting discussion and hope it is useful for mebaasmum, who started this thread (and who seems to have disappeared ages ago!)