got some dirt on his caror wore his coat?
(Please be patient)
As H was due to be away for mothering sunday he the family for lunch, to a place of my choice, the sunday before. It was a really great lunch, DC had fun and ate well, behaved fab etc (t'was only Wagamama's) but the last few months have been really stressful - DS had a serious head injury in Dec which has had long term effect on his behaviour/mobility/speech also we are currently taking the LEA to tribunal - next week eeeek - to provide DS with an adequet education (this was from before the head injury).
DH works away much of the time and often misses birthdays, wedding annis etc when in the country he leaves before the dc get up and often doesn't get back to kis them good night they are 10(dd) and 5(ds).
On the way back it was really sunny and the Dc really wanted the roof down on H's car, so I wrapped my scarf around my head a la Grace Kelly as I have long hair and it was loose. He laughed and said, "I'm not putting it down now, someone mught see you looking like that." I replied that it was my best GC and he retoreted, "I'd hate to see your worst." I lol but was a bit irritated.
Anyway he put roof down and the sun was shining on the dash and I couldn't see the digital music display due to dust so when I went to change songs I ran my leather gloved finger along the plastic over the digital display. Unfortunately, I hadn't noticed that when my gloves had been in the side pocet of my handbag the lid had come off my foundation so I smeared a line of beige vitalumiere across the screnn.
He went right off the deep end, shouting "look what you've done, you've got it all dirty, how could you be so careless etc." until I said very loudly back, "Oh get a grip." and wiped it off with a tissue.
He than had the hump for the rest of the afternoon.
After the dc in bed, I was making some supper for us and talking about packing his suits for him to leave for 2 weeks in the usa the next day.
He asked me what my favourite part of the weekend was and I laughted and said, "the tantrum you threw in the car was pretty impressive."
Anyway this led to more aggro with my eventually saying, "What is the real problem?" and he said he was cross with me because I had worn his coat and left something in the pocket.
It is true I wore 2 of his coats. due to having my thyroid removed and developing a heart problem the medication I have been on has made me put on a huge amount of weight in a very short space of time, none of my coats really fit me anymore so if he has left his raincoat behind and it is raining I wear it. Ditto a very warm gilet he has. I left a toy car and a new packet of tissues in one coat and some nappy sacks in another (a coat he often leaves ns in as he wears it to walk the dog)
He claims that this means I show him no respect, that I feel I own him and all his possessions - he went right into one, I left him to make hi own dinner and pack whilst I went to bed and read.
Anyway This week on the phone, he is acting all sweet like nothing happened, but I am still pretty pissed off. I told him that I felt his reactions showed that he valued his posessions more than my happiness or that of the DC (they were witness to the first outburst).
I actually think my DH has some serious aspergers issues and ignore much crap due to this, but he is 50 and really ought to be in control.
So was I bu wearing his jackets or was he to object?