need ideas for our new weekly 'sex nights'

[juicychops]

me and dp have decided that starting from next wednesday we are going to start having a 'sex night' where we take in turns of thinking of different theme nights, games, sex related things to do.

im not good at thinking of ideas so please can you provide me with some. id be very grateful

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Buy the board game 'Monogamy',Amazon stock it,it's fab.Highly recommended

no pressure then

thanks chickens, just found it cheap on ebay so gunna get it

any other ideas?

Monogamy will give you loads of ideas,it's a very versatile game,we both love playing it but find it very difficult to make it to the end of the game IYKWIM.
Role-playing is always good for a laugh too!!
One week your dp could pick a scenario & you pick the next week.

get some good sex toys from Ann summers or online at lovehoney.com

my mum told me (you can imagine how comfortable a chat that was) one cool thing to do is write down (secretly) loads of random things you'd like the other person to do to/for you. Put them in a hat and then every so often your OH picks one and surprises you by doing whatever it is.

That sounds good MMM, are you allowed to put things like

Regrout bathroom tiles
Creosote fence
Take DCs out for the day without me

(Would def find third one an aphrodisiac actuallly)

lol!!! I agree, DC-free day would definitely spark something! though I think it was supposed to be a massage or whatever. can't say I asked mum for more details

Tbh I think a weekly sex night is a really bad idea as it puts pressure on both of you. I'm great at shagging and one thing I know;-it's not what you do but how you do it. Forget spending money on sex toys and the like don't put too much pressure on yourself to do complicated role plays as these take a lot of confidence to pull off.

Start by re-doing the basics. The blowjob is the best starting point. Come onto him when he's relaxed and give him a slobbery one with lots of mmm mmm noises and eye contact.

i did suggest to him once a fortnight but he wants to do it weekly which im fine with. we have sex most nights anyway so its just something to make it a bit more exciting and not so routine if you see what i mean

oh just have a shag, its sex, not 'It's a Knockout'

But it will become routine - nothing would put me off more than feeling I had to come up with more and more intricate sexual antics every week.

Great sex doesn't have to be staged, one of the best things is spontaneity, a bit difficult if every Wednesday night is "kinky sex" night.

Fantastic sex is 50% what you are doing and 50% what you are thinking .

If you have very regular sex anyway, why not just get a deck of karma sutra cards, one night you shuffle them and get a position, the next time he does it?

Do you tend to have the same sex all the time? The thing is you tend to settle into the same couple of positions that work the "best" and it's nice to do something totally different once in a while.
A standing up / fully clothed quickie can be just as good as a prolonged, multi positional session, it just adds variety.

Or get jiggy in a morning but stop before either of you reaches orgasm, it builds up the tension all day and by bed time you will be ripping each other's clothes off

Are you sure about Wednesdays? Isn't Thursday a sexier day?

'It's A Knockout' themed sex nights sound like great fun.

juicychops, if you have sex most nights anyway, sounds like you should be dishing out the advice not receiving it

I fancy teh its a Knockout them.
Might get a giant Smurf cotume and try and climb over a ten foot wall!

Lucky, lucky cow.

Most nights!

Terrible terrible idea. Planned sex nights tend to kill it ime.

Sixtyfootdoll you should also hire Stuart Hall to laugh at you constantly while you do it.

Ok, how about we look at it another way...

Instead of seeing the 'pressure' to come up with ideas as a negative - see it as a positive. Get excited about it. I'm aware I may have slightly biased ways of seeing this, but take it up as a challenge. Have fun with it. There is no need for anyone to ever feel as though they need to panic over this kind of stuff.

I actually think this is a fab idea. My sex life may be considered 'extreme' by many, but with regards to what you're talking about, it's nice that you and your partner have been open with each other and have 'taken the plunge' to spice things up a little - not every couple is confident to do that.

With regards to it being 'planned' - well it is and it isn't. Yes, you're both expecting sex. But only one of you know's what to expect each week - that in itself is a turn on, or could be. One doesn't know what to expect, the other holds the knowledge of what's going to happen. I find myself in this position every week, me being the clueless one. It is a MASSIVE turn on, for me anyway. And each week doesn't have to include sex - naked dinner, sensation play, having a bath and 'washing' each other, play blind folded, naked hide and seek lol - be mindfull of the stairs though... Just have fun! Go out for dinner and have one of you 'wear' a toy that the other has control over - fun for all

I don't know how 'vanilla' you are... So I'm wary to start spouting off ideas that may cause offense to some.

Even the most simple things can be made sexy though. Relax and enjoy it.

Anne Summers are a serious rip off. There is a company called Honour I have used a few times - much better value for money. You also have the added bonus of ordering it all online and not needed to speak to anyone lol