is a grown man of 30, he has spent his life smoking weed, using people, stealing to fund said weed smoking and generally believing the world either owes him a living or is against him.
We asked him to leave home when he was 18 as we couldn't bear the stealing and lying we were subjected to on a daily basis.
He then moved in with his gran who idolised him and blamed us for not sticking with him (she didn't know the half of what he'd done to us)
Eventually gran moved into residential care with dementia and our son was evicted from her old folks flat. We tried to get him council accommodation but turns out he had, at one time, had a flat and ran up £100's in rent arrears, basically hadn't paid rent from day one.
He is now asking to come home. I cannot go through this again, he hasn't changed one iota, in fact he's now worse than ever.
I know if we allowed him to return we would literally never have a peaceful night again. When he lived at home I used to carry my purse from room to room because to leave it lying around spelt trouble. He would steal money, jewellery, in fact anything he could sell for drugs. He also became addicted to slot machines but I'm not sure if this is still the case.
Since his gran moved we have helped him with food and cash but we are beginning to feel like it's never ending.
Every friend he ever had has long since abandoned him and it feels like we are doing the same.
The guilt is overwhelming me and I don't know what to do.