had enough of DH's moods

[sparklymieow]

I know he is feeling all the crap with our neighbours more, as they keep threatening him, but I have had enough of his moods, he doesn't help me with the kids in the mornings, I run around doing everything, I am doing all the school runs, all the washing, when I ask him to cook he says 'i cooked yesterday' but I am doing all the running about, I do the dishwasher about 2-3 times a day, he is in a contant mood, and when I ask whats up he says nothing, he also asked me all the time about 'us' but I am trying to keep things normal, its him that isn't.
He shouts at the kids all the time, and gets stroppy with them if they wake up in the night, and if they try to sleep during the day.
He snatches things away from my desk in a strop and drops them, where he doesn't have proper hold of them because he has snatched. He wants my attention all the time, I get up every morning at 6-7am and have a nap in the morning, housework after that its school runs, dinner, showers, bedtime for the kids, then we slob out on the sofa, then on here for a while, but he wants more. I can't give much more. I have just had enough of his moods
I try to have convertions with him and he ignores me, then says I am pushing him away.........

[Gomez]

Sounds like he needs to start active treatment of his depression again. Would he be willing to do that?

Is the not going out related to your neighbours? Or was that happening before?

[sparklymieow]

no thats related to the neighbours. He will be ok when we move.

[Gomez]

So do you think he would start treatment again?

[sparklymieow]

yes, I think he would, but until we move he isn't going to get better. he is dreading the move because they will be outside.

[Gomez]

Might be chicken and egg thou' - if he can get his depression under control again then what is happening next door might not have such an impact on him...

[sparklymieow]

true, have to go now, dd2 is awake and I need sleep. Will chat tomorrow.
Night

[Gomez]

take care - you and dh.

[lousH]

The poor guy sounds like he feels powerlessness in the face of the neighbours ( amongst other things) powerless obviously makes a person feel like they are losing control this then leads to anger , insecurity etc, etc.

It probably doesn't help if he feels your efforts are what got you the new house, he might be feeling like he failed the family in some way.

I hope when you both get your new house a surge of positive energy will infect your hub, he sounds like he needs something to kick start him into a positive cycle.


If I lived closer I'd take him out for a chat/drink.

As you Know me and Lou have a child with Cp, we had nightmare neighbours and we have been stuck in ruts too.

all the best

[sparklymieow]

Thanks LousH, I hope that when we get the house things will be ok, I did all the pushing to get the new place and I think he feels that its too long away to make a difference IYKWIM.

[sparklymieow]

BTW teh new house is near the Galleria, I know you like to come down to it, maybe we could all meet up when we are in the new place??