Would you date a man who...

[MarquisOfCarabas]

...is still living with his ex because of the kids?

Follows AF out the door!

Next!

come on, gerks, let's go and get a cuppa

no

actually, in your case, i would date him.

because you sound like you deserve a man like this.

Er, some couples do this after they split up while they sort accommodation out, don't they?

I couldn't date a man actually permanently living with his ex though.

Aww, come on. When you are gullible and misled it's easy to repeat the bile that spews from new man's lips, right?

When will be the right time for him to leave the kids, then?

After they do their GCSEs?

After they do their A Levels?

When they leave uni?

When they have their first child of their own?

And what will you be doing all the time?

What will you be doing when they are all opening their presents on Christmas day?

WHen you are cooking Sunday dinner, where will he be?

For God sake dont do it and find a bloke with some balls.

Are you ok, Kerry?

Have a sit down.

To be fair, the people we bought our house from were "split up and living together still", but only while they tried to sort new houses out. Which was not exactly easy.

Why is it everyone can slag the man off, yet as soon as the OP says something uncomplimentary about the woman you all flounce?

I think staying in the house for the kids is different to staying in the house due to money reasons/selling it etc.

because, UQD, until signposted otherwise, 'tis best to give the OP the benefit of the doubt, yes ?

she could have been a naive, but misguided, young lady being spun a line by a naughty man

then she signposted otherwise, wrath of MN descends

you know how it works by now, and so does the troll OP

I get that, but can't she still be a "naive, but misguided, young lady being spun a line by a naughty man" and that line to include the stuff about the ex being a needy cow? I don't get how this signposted otherwise. Maybe this is one of those occasions when it's just because I am a man.

err, yep {smile]

I would be interested to know how exactly the needy cowdom manifests itself.

Perhaps she moos a lot and keeps asking for reassurance?

Who knows, he may really be into bestiality... the relationship started right, but the cow kept asking for more and he left her after having a serious case of trigger-happiness. However, he is kind enough to still be at home to milk her twice a day and take care of the hybrid cow-human descendants.

Sorry... I need a drink...

I've known it to work out for some, especially if it is genuinely for financial reasons and it's temporary, whilst separation arrangements are being dealt with. But, I wouldn't want to date someone living with his ex and mother of their children for an indefinite period of time. Actually, personally, I wouldn't do it at all, but that's just me! It's really up to you, whether you can cope with that. Also, worth protecting the children.

Sorry lost train of thought.... you said 'for the kids' not financial reasons. So what he's doing 'for the kids' by staying could be undone by the fact he's bringing another woman to the family home. It depends on the family's values, their upbringing, mindset, etc. A lot would say this isn't a good example being set. But if the kids are ok with it, and life's much better for the kids with things done this way, maybe it'll work. But all parties need to be genuinely happy with the arrangements. I have known it to work out, but the arrangements were only temporary, max a year.

you're right, UQD, hence my post that perhaps she should date him, as it would appear the pair are made for each other. he's a liar, she's a fool.

Well, I suppose you could if you wanted to give him the best of both worlds and have his cake and eat it.

My thoughts were simply that it was interesting that he was assumed to be a liar and she was assumed to be a dupe, UNTIL she remarked that the woman involved was a "needy cow." At which point everybody gave up with their sympathy for the OP and gave up trying to unpick the situation. I found this bizarrely perplexing.