Any advice on this most welcome.
I have a somewhat complicated relationship with my mother. She is a worrier to the point where it is chronic and almost psychotic. She has had CBT for it. I tend to keep most worrying things to myself because of it. In addition she is one of those people who thinks she can just say what she wants without consequences and I think she is very selfish.
I find myself unexpectedly pregnant again in my 40s. Granted it is not the best in terms of my age, my financial situation etc. However I am pleased.
I didn't tell her I was pg for a while as I suspected she would be stressed. However I really didn't expect the extreme reaction I got today. She was weeping and wailing, finding every negative under the sun such as risks to me and the child (of course we have already considered these), having no money (we have, though 2 kids costs more than 1 obviously), the fact I will be an 'old woman' when the kids are in their teens, how stressed out and tired I am with just one ( aren't all parents...)
i could go on. I found it insulting that she thinks as an adult woman with a bloody responsible job, I can't handle life with 2 children. Yes it's hard but FFS people do it. I am older but age doesn't always go with ill health does it?
I am so hurt. Both my parents kept going how about how worried they were and how I 'have to see it from their point of view'. Well yes but what about mine???? The worst things was she said ' don't expect congratulations because I don't think it's appropriate'.
I am so upset. I know there are negatives to this situation but if you have a glass half empty approach to life when would you ever be happy?
They live 200ml away so don't see them every day but tbh feel like just not speaking to them for a while. I am going to get DH to screen my calls, let them stew in their own juices. I really don't think I should spend my time placating them, making them feel happy with what's happened. Where is my support? I get criticism for a basic and not uncommon occurence - an unplanned pg.
Any suggestions? i feel desperate really and feel I don't ever want to speak to them again!
Sorry for rambling post and too long I know.