My mum died when I was 11, my dad remarried her nurse (let's not even go into that..)who was physically & mentally abusive towards my sister & I and from the age of 14, I was brought up by my aunt & uncle - who were wonderful parents to us.
Contact with my father was re-established when I was about 20 when my step-mother died and I ended up spending a year looking after my 5 yr old step-sister while he romanced his new & current partner. To cut a very long story short, my father has never behaved like a father towards us and after counselling and the death of my grandparents, I've finally managed to put some distance between us over the last couple of years...if anything, my feelings towards him have hardened since my beloved uncle died last year.
The question is...I'm having my 13 week scan this week, my sister is still in touch with him and there are mutal acquaintances who are likely to know my baby news soon and mention it to him...should I pick up the phone after only 1 conversation in three years (and only then because my sister was very ill) and tell him my news straight from the horse's mouth? Am I morally obliged?