Married colleague advertised for sex - What would you have done?

[ItsGraceAgain]

The lively response to this thread reminded me of something that happened at work a while back. This guy was an incurable lothario. He had the most wonderful wife & small kids, but he just couldn't keep it in his trousers. Nobody ever told his wife.

One day, wasting time on the interweb, we found HIS advertisement, complete with cheesy nude photo, on a sex search website. He said he was single and looking for a meaningful romance - along with the details of his prowess

This caused a great debate in the office. Although none of us would ever tell his wife about him "going astray", somehow the ad seemed different. He was actively going looking for it.

We didn't tell her.

Do you think we should have?

I think quite a lot of couples have a deal where they do what they like but don't rub it in each other's faces. So in that sense it's not the deed itself that's the dealbreaker, but the fact that other's know...

Grace: Not saying that anyone would have to do anything, more that a person might feel under pressure to do something if informed about an affair - particularly if the informant is full of officious outrage and 'encouragement' to leave/make a fuss.

Anyfucker- this one is on the list...

I work in the media and I do know a lot of people who got together at work but they were all single at the time. Maybe my colleagues are unusually virtuous or something... I've been hit on quite a lot but by contacts, not colleagues.

(Mind you, that could be because I write about health so most of my contacts are doctors...)

Lol, Edam, the doctors are a furlong ahead at the moment!

Weirdly, in the office I mentioned, when 2 divorced people moved in together there was outrage! Apparently it was OK (even desirable) to have affairs but not to form a relationship

Grace, I remember a similar thing happening where I worked. Indiscretions were fine, but leaving your partner to get together with someone else was really frowned upon. What a peculiar double standard that is..

No, none of my business. However if I was his friend I'd tell him he was identifiable from the add. If everyone in the office knew then surely his wife or one of her friend/ member of family could find it. Would probably tell him this even if not a good friend actually.