i havent been on mumsnet for well over a year, but recently i have had lots of issues that made me think - i know where i can get some good advice!
i dont quite know where to start. me and dh got married when i was 19 and i now realise that was far too young. anyway, we have been married 8 years and have 2 daughters aged 4 and 2. everything was going fine until he decided mountain climbing was his new hobby. i love the fact that he has a hobby and goes off to do his own thing but in my opinion he has become selfish. last year he was away for 2 weeks in majorca climbing, the year before that 2 weeks in france, and he has just said to me i need to book easter off work and also 2 weeks in august so i can have the kids whilst he goes away climbing again. we had a massive row in oct 09 because i'd had enough. he'd been away for 17 weekends out of 21 and it was as though him being away every weekend is normal to the kids and i dont think thats fair. even after the birth of our second child, when i had post natal depression and also 4 puppies to deal with from our dogs is when he went away to france for 2 weeks!!! i have never forgiven him for that. the row escalated and he tried to strangle me. he has never been violent before and hasnt since but it still scares me. in 3 years i have never met the lads he goes climbing with (they are from his work) and on both abroad holidays there are no photos of any one other than my husband. i think i have come to the point where i just dont know if i love him any more because i dont understand how someone can be so selfish. i even wonder at times if the kids would see more of him if we divorced. i'm sorry to ramble on but i just needed a place to get it all out and be able to ask for advice!!! xx