Was going to name change but thought I'd rather be "me" if that makes sense.
Have just issued an ultimatum of "you need to get this sorted by the end of this year or we're through" variety to man I've been seeing for six years and who is DD's father. Have effectively said that seven years is enough.
Basically, he was separated when we met but is still not divorced; doesn't live with us; and is not committing to us. I strongly suspect that he's actually not sure if he wants to be with us or his ex and two children.
Feeling a bit relieved to have said it but also a bit scared that he might actually make a decision! If he chooses us that means I then have to make a commitment to him (I'm quite commitment phobic). If he doesn't I'll be really upset but probably better off. I suppose he'll always be around in some way because of DD but I'm sure we can handle things in a civilised way.
Not sure what I'm hoping for by posting this - think it might just be cathartic to do it but also suspect there will be some blunt speaking here that I won't like very much!
Trying not to cry my eyes out in front of DD but it's hard not to. Just so fed up with being the one having to cope 90% alone with no end in sight.