Do men find mums sexy and if so why?

[poshsinglemum]

I know that some of you lucky ladies have doting partners who find the fact that you grew, carried and gave birth to your babies sexy but is their anything else about mums that other men in general find attractive.

When I became a new mum, I felt gross. I now feel attractive again but I don't feel like the rampant young sex goddess that I used to. I feel more mumsy and wholesome although when I ovulate I get up for it big time!

Also do men have this Madonna/whore complex? Do they find shagging mums wied compared to childless girls?

Has having kids changed how you feel with regards to sex and feeling sexy?

Do men like the earth mother thing?

And how the hell do you get any sex at all as a single mum with a 18 month old child or even as a couple with older kids? I will miss the spontenaity of my pre-kids life but I guess we have to be more creative!

Sorry I'm not sure if this thread got published yesterday.

Most of the time I don't miss it but I'm getting curious again!

i think it depends if they aer married to them

wierd- sorry bout spellings. have had a very stressful day today with dd in hospital. Thankfully she's fine.

But if they are not for example. Also, if you are in a relationship then has your partners view of you changed?

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I've wondered this about the whole MILF thing.

Are MILFs the exception (i.e. I'd like to fuck her, DESPITE her having children. She's far more attractive than those other mums)

or is it a much more widespread thing that some men are attracted to women who have had children and perhaps have the 'worldly wisdom' that goes with that?

(Or are some of them just looking for mother figures)

I don't know. DH still fancies me. I have two sinlge mum friends, one who has been single for years (but she was very young when they split, only 20) and has lots of sex. One who is fairly recent and also seems pretty attractive to men. Stretchmarks and damaged fannies don't seem to put men off, in their experience

Maybe if you are more confident after having children and hornier because of hormones then those are the things they find attractive, not the actual fact of you being a mother.

IME having children does not make a woman less attractive to men - hasten to add am happily married but not been short of offers!

Men find women sexy. Some more than others, some less than others, adjust according to taste.

If you find someone attractive, the fact of their having children doesn't make you fancy them less - it just throws an additional element into the mix if you are thinking about an actual relationship.

Agree with OrdinarySAHM it's not the fact whether or not you have children it's the confidence thing that gets 'em drooling

Hi all,

Thanks for the replies.

In some ways I am, more confident. I think I a much less self conscious than I was and also I am more independant. In other ways I am less confident. E.g: I am fatter and I have been out of work for ages.

I need to get down that gym!

posh, I was wondering about this the other day. Very similar situation to you except I have a DP. Am still celibate though And need to lose the baby weight, regain my... I dunno, myself?

There's a nice Jeff Buckley song that is quite sexy towards a mother, it makes me smile: "Your eyes and body brighten silent waters, deep.
Your precious daughter in the other room, asleep."
I think it's called Morning Theft, it's all rather passionate, so presumably blokes do fancy mums although perhaps not BECAUSE they are mums.

I am wondrering if lactation has something to do with it. I am still bf. My periods stopped for a year and I just was not interested. I am not feeding as much so periods are back on and am feeling more horny. Do bf hormones make us feel like sex less?

But if a man was to get near my boobs surely he'd be horrified-no?

I am a dairy cow. Sexy. not.

I think that one thing that makes me more sexy now is that I am less desperate to settle down and have babies! So mabe a bit more chilled.

Shame it has to be like that though.

I agree with UnquietDad. Men like women, end of story. I think a guy is attracted to a female whether she has kids or not, (although the fact she has children might put some men off.) The MILF thing is just a label.

I think the whole MILF concept is more "17 year old preferring 36 year old mum to 16 year old daughter" rather than "36 year old bloke attracted to 36 year old mum"

Mary - erm, no, not in my experience!

In my experience, men like women who are 'enthusiastic'

kids or not

Unquietdad said: "Men find women sexy. Some more than others, some less than others, adjust according to taste.

If you find someone attractive, the fact of their having children doesn't make you fancy them less - it just throws an additional element into the mix if you are thinking about an actual relationship."

What he says! I find WOMEN sexy. The fact she may or may not have a child factors into the equation along side with other things like "Do I get on with her?" or "Is she a good person?"

I can still find a woman sexy but hate her guts. I guess thats where men & women differ.

I was going to post Something Wise about how some men love women and some never get past the 'visual triggers' thing. But the Dads have said it so much better

PS: Any woman can get a shag if that's all she wants. Which is definitely not true for any man!

Don't compare yourself to a dairy cow - Channel a Tiger of the Jungle instead. They are mammals too.

AFAIK the hormones involved in BFing do suppress some women's libido.

I don't think having children has made me more sexy to DH. Equally I don't think he has gone off me (not that i know of anyway)!

Responding to the thread title....

(Straight) men find women attractive. Mothers are women. Ergo, often the women men find attractive are mothers. So yes, the answer to your question is yes. Men find mothers sexy because mothers are women and men find women sexy (in general anyway).