ok - to go on a months hoiliday with another man?

[Stopshopping]

An old male widowed friend (of both mine and DH) has invited me and my kids on a month long expedition next year - DH not interested in going but ok with me going (I think!)We have shared interets - have neer been naughty but i suppose ther is a slight frisson there as he is an interesting guy.
This will be a fantatsic expedition for my boys but wondered am I playing with fire even within my very secure and happy marriage?

you know the answer

How would you feel if he was going on holiday with a single woman who he shared an interest with for a month?

Ewe - I donn't honestly know - my DH goes away regularly with one of his hobbies and to places where there are avaliable females and I am ok with that. It sort of feels right and sort of feels wrong IYKWIM -

You fancy him.

So no.

No you'd be asking for trouble. Even if nothing happened it might prey on your DH's mind.

I couldn´t-I´d miss my husband too much, and he´d miss the children too much!

no, and stop being silly

If you have to ask, you know the answer deep down.

This is just asking for trouble, IMO.

I would be very unhappy if the boot were on the other foot.

A weekend is one thing, but a month?!!

You're not worried are you? You can control yourself. Just because someone is attractive, doesn't mean anything will happen. So even if there is a spark - you choose whether or not to act on that.

If your marriage is happy and secure, then you value it and you value your husband, don't you? So you wouldn't choose to betray him, would you?

So there's not problem with you going, if he's happy for you to go.

You are stupid to even think of going .

Why stupid ?- I have a happy marriage and I am not some raving sex manic who cannt control herself. We will also have 4 kids with us and be sleeping in tents on the top of 4x4 lol so hardly a romantic gettaway.

But most of your responses have confirmed my fears - ie what other people think - Thanks it will help me make a decision

Stupid maybe a little strong, but Daft was what sprang to my mind the instant I read your OP.

You'd be opening up a whole can of worms...seriously, don't.

so why did you mention this "frisson" between you two and that you "have never been naughty" in your Op ?

there is obvious sexual tension there... maybe only on your part

perhaps you shouldn't go, if only so you don't make a twit of yourself...

Think you're asking for it.

Errrr what? No. Not ok.
Why would you take a risk like that?

No.

A month's holiday? A whole month?

Yeah, I'd be off like a shot.

I think you should go for it. Life is far to short to waste opportunities because of what stupid people might think/say.

I'd say go, but ignore the "frisson".

I think you should go too. You can't accidentally fall onto his knob, can you?

Mind you, any other adult than my DP would drive me nuts after a month of camping. Does it have to be so long?

lol - No I wont accidentally fall on to his knob ;) I have always been very cross when people say oh it just happened - like they have no choice.

The slight frisson is more interlectal as I said he's very interesting ,witty etc, I personally have quite a few friends with who I have a frisson as I have quite a few interesting/witty/nice men as friends - doesnt mean I'll rip of their clothes at any given opportunity.

But I do understand peoples missgivings - why I postedc

Where are you going? [nosey]

Down through France - Spain to Algeria and a few north African countries and the Saharah desert - the back via Gibralta etc - Seperate cars and tents lol

Ohhhh nice.