So - DF was a rubbish dad, drank too much, played around, was violent and emotionally abusive. Went off with mum's friend, married her, now has two failed marriages behind him. He lost a position in local politics a few years ago (through no fault of his own) and became depressed, suicidal and lonely. We rebuilt a better relationship and we speak regularly but only because he is lonely ( I am aware that i'm second best to a more interesting life which no longer exists). He came over for a couple of days and went today. It was two days of doing exactly what my dad wanted to do when he wanted to do it (and paying for it). Finally snapped this morning when he was about to go for his bus and, whilst I was holding three heavy bags of shopping, asked me to stand in the dodgy, filthy bus station next to some drunks with my two Dds watching his small case while he went to the toilet. I dared to say I'd rather not, we'd just say goodbye here and go, and he walked off screaming abuse at me in front of the children, who were bemused, and saying he never wanted to see me again. I know it sounds really pathetic and unhelpful of me but this was the last straw really. He's called - twice - and I told him to go away. I feel relieved but worried about him. His other crutch - my younger sister - is on holiday and he lives alone. Do I call because it's New Year's Eve, to make him feel better?