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how to satisfy him better?

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2embrased · 07/12/2009 09:29

name changed for obvious reasons.
i have been with my dh for 3 yrs, i was a virgin when i met him. he sexually satisfies me, but i don't quite know how to make sure he is satisfied? what can i do? how can i tell?

i don't want to ask him.

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hobbgoblin · 07/12/2009 09:31

how sweet of you for doing PSHE homework while the teachers are on INSET. you'll go far in this world even if you are limited in your shagging abilities.

miumiu · 07/12/2009 09:32

buy a book

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2embrased · 07/12/2009 09:33

huh?

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GypsyMoth · 07/12/2009 09:35

so what if this is a young person posting? does it matter?? people doing phse homework or a mother of 4.....really,anyone can post here for advice,its not exclusively for mums

!!!

hobbgoblin · 07/12/2009 09:39

that isn't the point ilove. posting for kicks and posting for advice. there's a difference.

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2embrased · 07/12/2009 09:39

i am mother of 2..but thank you anyway. il ask somewhere else.a regular infact.

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Igglybuff · 07/12/2009 09:41

2embrased you should ask him what he wants!

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2embrased · 07/12/2009 09:41

wasn't posting for kicks i can assure you. i just wanted some advice, i feel a bit sad that i don't know how to satisfy him, thats all. maybe il just ask him, better then you lot. i assumed wrongly so, that maybe someone could give me good advice...but hey i will just go buy a book or continue to do my PSHE homework.

thank you.

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GypsyMoth · 07/12/2009 09:42

it is the point.....because you don't actually know who is posting for kicks and who isn't,like in this case......another one scared off. nice. mumsnet at its best!
not

AngryFromManchester · 07/12/2009 09:42

you ahve had two children in three years so you must be doing something rioght surely?

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2embrased · 07/12/2009 09:44

having sex and satisfying him. don't always go hand in hand do they.

look it doesn't matter, im obviously doing this for kicks. those who answered thank you.

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Igglybuff · 07/12/2009 09:44

I agree with Angry. I assume he showed you the ropes as it were so would have shown you how he likes it? Do you think you don't satisfy him?

GypsyMoth · 07/12/2009 09:47

i don't have alot of advice really,except communication. talk to him? pick up on what you feel he likes etc

sarah293 · 07/12/2009 09:48

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thedollshouse · 07/12/2009 09:50

Yes we do have trolls on here occasionally. But I don't believe that school kids would ever come on here to troll, there are far more interesting sites for a teenager to troll on rather than mumsnet. We may like Mumsnet but for the average teenager Mumsnet is as dull as dishwater.

canonlytakesomuchmore · 07/12/2009 10:05

2embrased I understand what you mean and how you feel. I was not a virgin when I met my DH but also didnt have a lot of sexual partners.

According to him from the word go "I ROCKED HIS WORLD" but now years later he tells me I am bored in bed. Not once did we discuss it and I just found out that he paid for sex and sexual favours.

And typical Mumsnet they seem to always think that people are making things up when we post. I have no one to talk to and needed to talk about my situation and I had one response. But I will just keep it to myself and get depressed then feeling embarrased on this website. (not the first time it happened that I posted something and was really upset and no one cared)

dejavuaswell · 07/12/2009 10:06

If the OP is a troll so what? Ignore, move on or if really concerned contact HQ.

Call me an old cynic (pause for shouts of "You old cynic" from assembled throng) but I do wonder if the dedicated troll hunters sometimes create trolls so they can then say "told you so".

Add to the mixture the fairly nasty activities of a few Mumsnetters towards a younger poster recently and .....

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2embrased · 07/12/2009 10:09

canonly, i know what you mean, yes we have sex fairly often, but i don't do much really iykwim.

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dejavuaswell · 07/12/2009 10:12

The post from canonlytakesomuchmore proves, if further proof was needed, that the troll hunters are a negative influence on Mumsnet.

I have seen a few threads where a perfectly sensible (if somewhat unusual) question was shouted down by these folk.

Igglybuff · 07/12/2009 10:19

2embrased I think you should talk to your DH - maybe over a nice dinner if you can. Ask him what he would like and go from there. Make it a positive conversation as opposed to what isn't working.

IsItMeOr · 07/12/2009 10:20

2embrased another vote for asking him here. I think there's a chance he might get a bit worried if you suddenly introduced lots of new techniques without discussing it with him first!

You could always try buying one of those magazines (cosmo used to be the one, but just look at the covers) that has a "10 ways to satisfy your man" feature, and then use it as a way to open a conversation. Cheesy, I know!

IsItMeOr · 07/12/2009 10:21

One other thought - do you ever initiate sex? I think that's usually a winner.

crankytwanky · 07/12/2009 10:22

2embarased I can only sugest talking to him. Try a lighthearted approach at first.

I am having a similar problem atm so know how you must be feeling. My DH sems to have gone of it, but isn't really up for roleplay etc.

I do know men prefer it if you take a very active role in the deed. Make sure you are having sex with each other, rather than him doing it to you iyswim.

I'd agree with riven though too! IME, blokes are so chuffed to be getting their end away they don't much care about anything else. Carrying this fact around with me has helped my body-image no end!

IsItMeOr · 07/12/2009 10:24

Lol at crankytwanky and riven - I think we're all trying to say that visible enthusiasm seems to go a long way.

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2embrased · 07/12/2009 10:26

i think i might talk to him over text, can't do it in person i feel too embarrassed.

thank you all for taking the time to respond, and not shouting troll at me.

i think he may well get scared if i start doing random new things, i do initiate it sometimes, but then i just don't know what to do.

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