DH and I have been having problems for a while.
I'm pregnant at the moment. When I was pregnant with DS, DH wrapped me in cotton wool. This time he doesn't seem to give a shit.
Don't get me wrong, he cares about the baby. Just doesn't seem to care about me. I was in hospital last night and when he contacted me it was purely to see what was happening with the baby. He didn't seem to have any regard for how I might feel. I was worried about DS as he was staying with MIL who is horrible and I was missing him like mad.
Today, DH came to pick me up and went on and on about how nakered he was. I said I was, too considering it was me who'd been up worrying and having tests at regular intervals all night, woke up early in the morning for more blood tests and literally the most stressed I've been in my life. The stress is down to him putting pressure on me all the time, problems at work and worries over our baby as we thought that last that bump wasn't going to make it. I know I'm not the only person to experience this- everyone on the ward was in the same boat and we were all a similar number of weeks. But it was, and still is, terrifying. We don't know exactly what's what yet.
The past few weeks we're both working 5 days a week and looking after DS, then I have work to do outside of work. I'm very run down and if I ask for anything like a drink he starts stomping around saying I treat him as a slave.
The day before last, I worked 9-6 and he worked 9-4. Then he shouted at me as I hadn't done the washing. When I said I'd been at work he said 'bullshit, you get loads of breaks'. I hadn't even had a dinner break.
He's been mentioning the name of a girl at work a few times. Yesterday he said not to put something on facebook as she looks at my page. I said it was private and he said 'yes but she can see what you say to other people'. I asked how he knew and he said that she'd said 'your girlfriend (I'm his wife- she knows this as she looked at our wedding pics on facebook.. weird or what?) is actually bonny isn't she?' Why would she say that?
He's maintained that he works with one man on his department and this man rings/texts all evening when he gets home. He rarely answers and when he does he often goes out of the room.
The other day he slipped up and said something about a woman who works in their department with them. He has NEVER mentioned this name before or since. It is a very unusual name so I would have remembered. I always ask him about work to show an interest.
I had to go into his work last week and he got embarressed and criticised what I was wearing. He makes out none of them at work get on but when I went in they were all laughing and joking together. He says hardly any women work there and there was loads of women. There's one lady who works late when he does and he's always said she was old. She was about his age.
He's funny about his phone.
We haven't had decent sex since we'd been together about 4 or 5 months and I got pregnant with DS. We had sex the odd time to get pregnant with this one, but it seemed like a chore for him. We haven't had sex since I got pregnant. Yet he has slept with over 400 women before we got together and had a 5 year relationship which he complained that he always wanted sex and she wouldn't give him enough.
Lately he's shouting at me all the time saying he's had enough of me and not to tempt him to leave. Today he was calling me a 'fucking bitch' when I've just got out of hospital and been told not to get too stressed.
Last night when I was in hospital, he txt me saying he couldn't sleep. Then when he got to the hospital he said he'd had one of his mates round. He knows I wouldn't like this- obviously as I was stuck in hospital worrying. They played on PS3 and watched a film. This mate then sent me a message on facebook telling me to tell DH if he needs anything to give him a ring. Why say that when he'd been at ours that night?
He keeps going to this mates house and says he won't be long but he is. I just wonder if this mate is covering something up.
He keeps accusing me of cheating when I'm not, too.
There's even more but this is getting long. This is just a list of my suspicions so obviously it's not going to sound good. It's not all bad. We do love each other and have a laugh together.