Am a regular but have namechanged.
DH and I have been together about 15 years. He as always been attractive to me and until recently our sex life was pretty good, if not as regular as DH would like.
I noticed recently though that the ONLY time I want to have sex is when I am ovulating. I just cannot abide being touched (or mauled it feels to me) at any other time. I just don't feel like it at all.
In fact, two or three times a month would be enough for me whereas DH would like it at least two to three times a week. He always makes the first move and gets really huffy if I refuse-accuses me of being boring, says he is going to pay for it, I am always tired etc. etc.
The week before my period, I feel like screaming if I give in and let him have his way. I could literally punch him in the face whilst we are in the middle of it. I find it really hard to get enthusiastic, all I am thinking is "just hurry up". Everything he does makes my skin crawl and I feel extremely irritated by the way he kisses me or plays with my nipples. He wanted to go down on me (sorry-am embarrassed typing this) last night and I just didn't want him to-it made me feel like screaming. Physically, I feel nothing when we have sex, it's like I am numb. Actually, I feel one thing-anger. I also feel violated, like I am being touched against my will.
I have said to him I just don't feel like it or I'm not in the mood, but I HAVE to do it at LEAST once a week as it's affecting our relationship and I'm not sure what is wrong with me. I know that it's my hormones that makes me feel like it when I am ovulating, so where does that leave me? I'm frightening myself thinking that I have fallen out of love with my DH.
Has anyone else experienced this and managed to get back what they had?