Do you still fancy your DH?

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And if so how do you keep the romance going amongst the madness that is day to day living with kids, work, etc?

i still fancy my Dp as ive never fancied a man sooo much till i met my Dp who is my soulmate.
We've been together for 9 years and last went away - time together alone before the girls came along - 6 years ago, as we are so skint but we do love each other and he still makes me laugh .. Since ive been with Dp, ive never fancied another man.....is that sad??

Yes - after 13 years, not that we act on it as often as we did but when we do I'm always glad we do. I love him more than ever though.

Oh god yes, he is still hot. I think we both work hard to try and avoid slipping into a rut though, or taking each other for granted. He makes me laugh every day and sometimes I like to liven up a dull moment by giving myself a mental action replay of some of our highlights

I have to say though, our sex life has improved a lot since DS learned how to sleep through.

Some days I do, some days I don't. I can't say for sure as I seem to have lost my va va voom since having DS (10 months ago). Being with a baby all day has made me feel cuddled out like I don't have any personal space anymore, if that makes sense. I think if I could just have a few good nights sleep that I would really fancy DH.

Please tell me it gets better.

sometimes - compared to the other dads at ds' school he looks good esp for his age tall, dark, rugged etc - not sure if he would make the top 5. he could drop a stone (i could drop a few though IMO!!!). there are about 5 attractive mums whose dps are various takes on matt lucas; when i see them, i thank the lord!!

Don't always take a lot of notice but sometimes see him in certain things and think grrrr! Cm ere! however I think after long periods together (us 13yrs) it is normal to feel indifferent. You take each-other for granted even though you may still love one another, and TBH if I fancied him all the time it would be exhausting and stressful.

When the kits off before bed or we go to a posh do or when he gets off the plane and is rumpled and a bit grubby, he has never looked more sexy and adorable.

I fancy him more and more as time goes by... He just gets better and better with age x

Unfortunately after having DD 7 months ago I am now a bit of a fat wreck so I worry that he probably doesn't fancy me anymore ......

But he is just amazing... I love lying on his side of he bed when he gets up for a shower in the morning as it just smells of him....

YES def, but we only married in jan. Been together 7 years since i was 16.
Keep it going by always going to bed at the same time, hugging and BD
When i worked as a carer, an old lady said to me to never go sleep on an argument, it worked for her for 60 odd years and i listen to that advice.

Yes! He can be lazy/grumpy/unreasonable/thoughtless/annoying etc. but I have never fancied anyone as much as him! Just being close to him or smelling him does it for me.

we split up for a few months before the DC I just didn't fancy him any more, but we got back together, worked at it and can't believe I felt like that! Were coming up for 12 years and I feel like we're going into a new 'phase' we're more settled, caring and more grown up together! I look at the other men our age and they all seem so old, chunky and hairy compared to my lovelt, tones, cute DH! But we had to work through the dull times to get here!

It gets better Bambino, it is hard to be loved up when you have been touched all day. It will pass - just don't forget about each other in the meantime.

Bambino It does get better, and I know exactly what you mean about personal space. On the one hand, when you have a baby, you get a lot of cuddling needs fulfilled, and at the same time you are giving a lot of yourself all the time, so sex can feel like another demand on you....

Not on your own. I dont feel the same since I had my daughter nearly two years ago and its depressing!

I do. Very much. Ridiculously hot guy, great dad, very macho man- it just drives me crazy in a good way. Very positive and hands on in case of a crises.
Could be more sensitive, but it's just not him, so when I need sensitivity will call my friends, sister, mum..
But considering the fact that we've been together for only 3 years, I'd love to know if the feeling will be the same in 10/15 years time..

Lequeen, it is possible for a man to be nurturing and caring alongside being masculine and macho - mine most definitely is and is not in the least cringeworthy!

He can defuse (and build) a bomb, strip a machine gun, fit an ejection seat into a Tornado, plus he was a dab hand with feeds and nappies and can use a hoover/washer/cooker/iron. He can also fix pretty much anything.
I couldn't bear an unemotional man, much prefer tears to stiff upper lip but I also know he would protect me with his life and is as useful as Ray Mears, we would definitely survive should a Mad Max scenario ever happen. It helps that he's utterly gorgeous to boot and gets better with age.
It is possibe to have it all.

Malificence Does he wear a - a Uniform ????

Unfortunately he no longer wears a uniform, unless you count a white lab coat and white wellies + a hairnet and hat.

I could post topless photos of him when he was in the desert, totally yummy in desert combats. That was 1990 though.

Yes, your statement about "tell me how you feel" did make a bit of sick rise up - he's not that wet! After 27 years we tend to know what the other is thinking anyway.

I'd be very upset if a shoulder massage didn't lead to groping tbh.

I do, but wish he would get rid of the beard

hell yeah!! Soooooooo in love with him. Even when we had our rough patch, I knew I couldn't live without him! I still look at him and think 'PHWOAR!!!'

Although sex isn't a big deal to us (and god knows with 4 kids its pretty much impossible anyway!!!...says her pg for the 5th time lol) but we make sure that we have one night a week where we either cook together after the kids have gone to bed, (or order a takeaway if we have got the money!) turn the telly off and just sit and natter and cuddle up on the sofa. That is more important to us than anything.

We don't go out much as a couple, as nobody wants to look after 4 kids! But when we get the offer, we make sure we go. It tends to be pretty spontaneous if we do though, like FIL might ring up and say 'i'm not working tonight do you want me to babysit and you and dh go out' so we will then. Makes it more special to us that we have got the chance.

It's all about the little things to us. We tell each other we love each other at least once a day. Saying how mwe appreciate each others help and support. Like last night, DH came home to find me in a hormonal mess crying so he made me sit down and made me a cuppa while he cracked on and did a few jobs, getting the kids ready for bed etc. I just looked at him and i still got butterflys and thought 'hell yeah youre love and totally gorgeous' hehe

and we been together 12 years i meant to say

Good for you AnAngel - some couples fall apart after one child, let alone four.
It is about the little things and making an effort and feeling valued.

awww angel