Do you still fancy your DH?

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And if so how do you keep the romance going amongst the madness that is day to day living with kids, work, etc?

Yes - been together nearly 20 years and he has got better looking with age. I did go through a phase of not fancying him (or, actually, it was not fancying "it"), but as someone else said, having sex makes you want more sex.

Talk to each other, listen to each other. No-one else makes me laugh as much as he does, and he thinks i'm pretty funny too. Remembering that we will be left together once the DCs are long gone, so we'd better not take each other for granted, and it's important to get time overnight without DCs.

Oh, and also, someone who takes a share in caring for the DCs gives me the horn (someone cleaning the toilet has the same effect)

When he has his clothes on. Harsh but true. He has a very handsome face but he could do with losing 4 stones ...

yes I still fancy my DH...we went through a rocky patch though and seperated for a long time, but worked hard on saving our marriage and getting back together I realised that I still loved him and fancied him..and ditto him me

Very much so. When he is away I sleep on his side of the bed cause it smells like him.

We are very physical with each other. Always holding hands, snuggled on lounge together, lots of quick kisses and cuddles and pats in passing.

Been together 13 years and married 11.

Fruitbatlings, don't worry, it can get back to "normal". I know it sounds awfully mushy, but a good man really does improve with age. And you fancied him once, it can all come back and more!

So yes, answering OP - definitely still fancy dh, the longer we're together, the more I see things and think he's wonderful. For me, it's personality that really does it. He'll make me laugh, or be extremely kind, and I can't help but feel warm and fuzzy. It doesn't hurt seeing him in a suit every now and again... "

Since having ds, we go on weekly "dates" - just coffee most of the time, but grownup time, and it's been really good for our relationship.

funny how considering all hte odd marraiges you read about on MN no one will ever say that perhaps they arent up for full on sex 24 7

when dh is away, I spread out over the whole bed and am delighted I'm not fighting for the duvet or being woken up by snoring. Marvellous.

I do- a lot. So while reading this thread I thought I would send him a text right now. He is in the dining room. I'm in the front room. It went like this.

Me- Hey
Him- Hey ?
Me- What are your plans for Friday night??
Him- Not sure... You?
Me- I wanted to know if you would like to go on a date and then come home and have hot monkey sex.
Him- Sounds good except where will we find a monkey?

I love him.

Yup, I still fancy my DH.

He is getting more rugged looking as he gets older - he had a real baby face when we met 10 years ago.

His bod just seems to get better too - his job is physical which keeps him nicely toned and in shape but just lately he has put a tiny bit of weight on which just sets him off.

In July, he went to Spain to see his parents - the first time we have been apart except for when I've given birth and had to stay in hosp. for a night or so - and was at the kitchen window when he pulled up and got out of the car...
It was like in a movie when the hero gets out of the car and walks up, I watched him in slow motion with his dirty spanish tan and a snug bright white t-shirt on. My tummy flipped and my eyes welled up.

I was preg with DC4 by the end of the week....

So, er, yes, I definately still do fancy my DH.

Oh fnarrrr yes I do.

Not sure if he still fancies me btu thats just my ghastly depressed paranoia speaking - I kind of assume he just wants lots of sex cos I'm the only place he can get it when it is actually because he thinks I am a (slightly wobbly ) hottie!

monkey sex?? please explain, am i missing out on something?

It was my attempt at being racy

Fruitbat - I'm with you!

Do I fancy my husband... well not really. not in the way that I did when we first met.

Do I love him - absolutely!
Do I enjoy sex with him - yes.
Do I think there's anything wrong in my marriage - no. Again I also thought this was normal.
Do I fancy other men - yes
Would I ever act on that attration - no!

I think he's attractive but he doesn't make my heart flutter when I see him. I would choose him as my husband over any other man I have ever met.

My DH is better looking now than the day we met, annoyingly. I am worse.

It is hard to find the time and energy for sex but we have lots of cuddles and grab our chances when we can.

yes I do!

Interrupting Kid, doesn't mean I am up for it 24/7, but I do find him attractive and funny, and as others have said the more sex we have the more likely it is generally.

Keeping the flames going? Erm, just little things like having a cuddle on the settee, kiss before leaving in the morning/coming in at night, plus regular dates when DC are with their GPs. Having a laugh together.

yes unfortunately, but i am not married to him anymore!!

not officially dh, but what the hell.

Yep.
16 years together.

Sometimes.

We both scrub up well and i'm sure the 'sometimes' goes for both of us, as soemtimes we also look crap make no effort and no one would fancy us.

he's not terribly interested in how he looks and so soemtimes does really mange to look shit despite being quite a good looking man.

Yes, I think he's lovely. Looks great in jeans and t-shirt with a 3-day growth. He's got a physically demanding job so is strong and manly

BUT

I really do think you have to try and make an effort with each other. It's easy to fall out of the habit of having regular sex, it's easy to go months without spending decent, quality time alone (for us, anyway) when you have young DC

Yes I do.

Don't know if we always do keep the romance going - we go through phases of being very loved up, then phases of being all business.

But when it comes down to it I really do fancy him loads - it helps that sex is always so damn good, so when we've gone for a few days without and we get round to it again we always wonder what took us so long...

yes I fancy the arse of my DH, he makes me laugh like a loon but annoys the fuck out of me at the same time, but I love him to death .
We try to have kid free days out or even sneak in a weekend together as much as we can.
We've been together nearly 8 years, married for a year.

What a lovely thread

Has confirmed to me even more that I really don't have such a good relationship these days but it's lovely reading how a good relationship should be.

yes, totally