I think my dh fits this description. He has two jobs both of which demand a fair bit of his time but no more than many other Dad's I know. He gets completely and utterly stressed with minor irritations, which are part of family life, to the point of physically shaking and funing. He is not relaxing to be with. He drinks way too much way too often (2 bottles of wine per night)and then behaves like some crude little schoolboy making sexual comments and inuendos in fromt of our 11 yo dd . He can be morose, starts the day saying he wishes he was dead etc. I am afraid I have lost sympathy over teh years having witnessed some horrific displays of temper and depression. I cannot carry on like this but am too afraid to address the situatin because last time i did he trashed several of our kitchen jars/vases. He has been an absolute monster to live with over the years but I cannot put everything in the op. Can anyone offer anyhelp/support/ I am at the end of my tether and sadly sleep evades me when I need it most