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FOR FATHERS WE WONT HAVE ON FATHERS DAY[[not as sad as it sounds]]

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almostanangel · 10/06/2005 10:39

just a little space to put a message for your dad if your not going to be able to give him a card this year.

Dad this is my 2nd fathers day without you
the first was last year 10 minutes after you left.
i was honered to hold your hand when you went ,but i miss you and i want to hug you and kiss you ,happy fathers day,
i never thought i would survive your death,but i have and i owe it to you ,you showed me real love and that .i know carries on with me even when your not here in person
i will plant a rose at your stone on fathers day ,but i know you are not there ...i have seen you standing leaning on the gate with your sleves rolled up smoking your old holbourn and smiling your smile ,,i miss you dad ..happy fathers day ..xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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almostanangel · 16/06/2005 20:11

"Dance With My Father" to dad miss you louise xx

Back when I was a child, before life removed all the innocence
My father would lift me high and dance with my mother and me and then
Spin me around ?til I fell asleep
Then up the stairs he would carry me
And I knew for sure I was loved
If I could get another chance, another walk, another dance with him
I?d play a song that would never, ever end
How I?d love, love, love
To dance with my father again
When I and my mother would disagree
To get my way, I would run from her to him
He?d make me laugh just to comfort me
Then finally make me do just what my mama said
Later that night when I was asleep
He left a dollar under my sheet
Never dreamed that he would be gone from me
If I could steal one final glance, one final step, one final dance with him
I?d play a song that would never, ever end
?Cause I?d love, love, love
To dance with my father again
Sometimes I?d listen outside her door
And I?d hear how my mother cried for him
I pray for her even more than me
I pray for her even more than me
I know I?m praying for much too much
But could you send back the only man she loved
I know you don?t do it usually
But dear Lord she?s dying
To dance with my father again
Every night I fall asleep and this is all I ever dream

these are the words for luthor vandrosses version i think its the same

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kaylasmum · 16/06/2005 20:44

almostanangel

what you describe is exactly how i feel, i was also with my dad at the end. He had the oxygen mask on and his breathing was awful. He died of pnuemonia after going into hospital 2 weeks previously due to a urine infection which he suffered from quite frequently, this is very common in MS sufferers. The day before he died he jokingly said to the nurse "am i going to get out of here before i die?" 36 hours later he passed away. As my dad was so disabled i used to visit him 5 times a week to make his lunch and do his housework and generally spend time with him. I sometimes complained about having to go so much, though never to him and i feel so guilty about that now. One of his greatest loves in life besides his family was his classical music, we played him his music near the end, and when the music ended he took his last breath, it was as if he wanted to hear it to the end before he went. I miss him so much and cant see how i will ever feel happy again, the loss is huge.

I'm sorry to be going on like this but it helps to speak to someone who understands the pain that i'm feeling. I hope Sunday is'nt too difficult for you to bear.

Take care.

Mandymoo · 18/06/2005 11:45

Dad

Its 4 years since you left us and I think of you every day. You never met your beautiful first grandchild but she has a photo of you and she knows that you are her grandad. It breaks my heart that you are not here with us in person and that you've never held your grandaughter but i know that you look over us.

I hope you are proud of us and know just how very much we all miss you. I know we rubbed each other up the wrong way a lot of the time but thats because we were so similar. I hear myself now saying things to B that I remember you saying to me and it makes me smile. Can't wait til she's a teenager!!!

I love you dad

Happy father's day

XXX

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almostanangel · 18/06/2005 13:18

kaylasmum please feel free to cat me and i will talk to you personally ,,hugs] aaa

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hub2dee · 18/06/2005 15:59

Wow, what an incredible thread. Bumping so that those with dads still around get to read this, and those who've lost their dads can see they're not alone.

AAA - saw your significant date in another thread, so thought I'd search your name and found this. Thinking of you. x

hub2dee · 18/06/2005 15:59

Wow, what an incredible thread. Bumping so that those with dads still around get to read this, and those who've lost their dads can see they're not alone.

AAA - saw your significant date in another thread, so thought I'd search your name and found this. Thinking of you. x

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almostanangel · 19/06/2005 07:17

just a quick bump.
dad.....im sure if your somewhere else..the last thing you will be doing is looking at mumsnet,but i know you are around me so you can watch me typing like a loon and read as i type.
happy fathers day ,,and thank you for being as wonderful as you were ,,i miss you terribly and i will be putting a rose bush by your stone today..its called.." remember me" and it has two beautiful blooms on it today.. i cant belive its a year today since i held your hand and watched you fall asleep for the last time..sometimes it feels like yesterday ,then sometimes it feels like so long ago..i will try my hardest not to cry today as i know you wouldnt like me to ,,but if i do have a few tears i know you will understand ..love you sooooooooooooooooooo much daddy from your little girl ,,hugs forever ,,louise,xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

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mandyc66 · 19/06/2005 07:20

Happy fathers day Dad (4th june 2002)
and Grandad (21st may 2005)

We all miss and love you!!!
Cheers!!

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almostanangel · 19/06/2005 07:20

]]]]]]]]]]]]]]to all on here that have left messages i know how hard it is for you and also to all that feel this way that are feeling our pain too...even though its a sad day for me it is also a happy one as my dad was wonderful and i was very lucky so ..i will hold that feeling close today......hugs]

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almostanangel · 19/06/2005 07:28

thank you hubthat was so nice of you ...vitual hughug

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almostanangel · 19/06/2005 08:19

bump

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george32 · 19/06/2005 09:16

For my Dad
28/05/35 - 30/12/04
Happy Fathers Day

I hope that you are in a happier place now Dad.

Hopefully now you are watching the waves, with Florence by your side, the sun on your face and a G&T in hand.
I love you so much & miss you terribly.
Be at peace now Dad.
xxx

Nemo1977 · 19/06/2005 09:37

daddy,
i never really got to know you as i was only young when you went. I have never stopped thinking about you and wish I could have known you better.
love
mishi

Titania · 19/06/2005 09:50

To daddy and grandad. i miss you both so very very much. you were both so special. i love you and will do forever x x x x

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almostanangel · 19/06/2005 16:29

bump

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LGJ · 19/06/2005 18:02

Sorry

I had to give up on this thread halfway through, I am sobbing.............

And my Dad is still alive.

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almostanangel · 19/06/2005 19:35

so far am ok ..planted two rose bushes at dads grave one called remember me and the other loving memorie i sat there for a little while as it was sunny ,,and im fine...hugs to you all ..cant belive its a year today since he went ,sometimes it feels like days sometimes like years ,,,,,,,,

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nell12 · 19/06/2005 21:07

To my darling dad on our 15th fathers day apart, I still miss you and I hope you can watch your beautiful grandchildren from your cloud. We all blew you kisses today

thanks almostanangel for a wonderful thread

Mum2girls · 19/06/2005 21:33

My first father's day without him too.

I can't think of words to describe it.

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almostanangel · 20/06/2005 07:55

well i got though it..i hope you all are ok too....i just didnt have any radio on so i didnt here the dad songs etc,, my dh got cards etc,and that was fine ..have a good day you lot [hugs

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Barbiehair · 14/06/2007 17:13

I still have my Dad but this year will be the first without my husband, the father of our children now aged 4 and 6. This is our year of firsts and I find the run up to these days worse than the day itself. If anyone else has been through this I'd appreciate your thoughts.

Paddlechick666 · 14/06/2007 22:24

Hi Dad, has it really been 23 years without you? I still miss you so much. I've still got so many cards and letters that you sent. I'd like to think you you check in on me now and then. You never got to be a Grandad but I know you'd be as amazed by and in love with my little girl as much as I am.
It's been a tough couple of years Dad and I wish you could be here to just give me a hug and tell me it'll be okay.
All of us miss you and we'll never forget you. X

joanna4 · 14/06/2007 23:05

I ended up helping out making 18 fathers day cards in the parallel class to the one I would usually work in today.I normally avoid all things fathers day but I was in at the deep end.In the 18 I sat with,we had many children who had never had dads they could call dads so we did cards for grandads or brothers etc.We also had other children who had lovely relationships with their dads and the rule was if I had to stick something they had to trade me a funny fact about their dads!Everyone was smiling as it was completed.
It made me realise that although my dad is in spirit now that I was lucky and honoured to have such a lovely dad who was always there for us and continues to walk beside us every day.
Barbie the firsts are the worst and you are right the anticipation of the day is often worse then the relief when the day is gone is just imeasureable.I have never been in your situation but you know the day will come the sun will rise it will set the same night and the day will go and you will survive it.Plan a day away if you need to I have found with my dad situation that keeping busy is good but finally I have accepted that what will be cannot be changed but I understand that it is early days for you.I will keep you in my thoughts.

bizzi · 15/06/2007 12:51

Thinking of you Dad, now and forever. This is our first year without you and God it's hard. I miss you sooo much it hurts. Love you always, very much and thankyou! xx

jaynel · 16/06/2007 23:14

i am crying, that is such a lovely idea, i still have my dad but we arent very close, i will promise to tell him that i love him and give him a big hug.xxx