Do you phone DH at work when you are struggling?

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I will quite often phone my DH at work in tears because of some issue with the kids e.g. DS three playing up or DD 15 weeks not sleeping/crying

He is brilliant about it and I just feel I need someone to vent my frustrations at sometimes. I don't feel I am not coping over all but I do wonder if anyone else does this?

I rarely phone him, mostly just practical stuff (please buy apples from market etc.) or to update him about a situation that he was aware of before he left for work (illnesses etc.)

Once in a blue moon I phone him just to vent, but more often I'd call my mum and get some ideas on what to try next as she has the time to chat.

No. My husband doesn't phone me in tears either. We're both fairly stoical though and don't have the sort of jobs where you can just answer the phone to personal calls. If I want to contact him I'd text him and vv then you can return call when convenient.
Generally I don't find wailing to someone else therapeutic. I just feel as though I've transferred my problems onto someone else and feel selfish and draining. Different if I need his opinion/ input on something, but it's rare it can't work til he gets home.
I think some people are more into the instant gratification must offload on the phone to someone now thing than others.

Do you work then rebecca? Perhaps not the same impact if you 'escape' to work some of the time.

Not really. But I did phone him when the cat brought a snake into the kitchen !

I do and a couple of times he has come straight home.

I try not to ring unless really desperate as he is very busy and has an important job.

Sometimes I will text or email.

I do ring DH when I need to. However, due to his job, I have months at a time when he is completely uncontactable. Therefore I make use of him when I can

He is good, and will come home if I need him to and he can. I can't think of the last time that happened though, now that the DSs are 3 & 5. I do like to know when he's coming home though (can vary by hours after his expected finish time!), and if I should cook dinner for him.

Have never done it, though several times I've e-mailed "bring wine" to him - and he does

No I don't do this.

But DH's job is very demanding and stressful and I know he can't just come home and help.

I call my sister to offload.

I guess I also like to be perceived as a coper who just gets on with things. Also known as a martyr complex

I text, either if things are going badly (usually try to put a semi humerous spin on it) or if they are going great (you'll never guess what dd just did etc). He tends to phone me on his lunch break, and unerringly always does so just as I'm trying to get them down for naps... Otherwise I'll just call "by arrangment" as it were i.e. if dd was ill and we agreed I'd let him know how she was doing after her morning nap etc

I have called him at work - eg DS hurt self or me being ill (or my dimmest babybrain day of locking ourselves out)
He has called me at work - DS having allergic reaction, DS unwell, him feeling ill

I think were both happy that if the one of us whos looking after DS at that moment needs support the other will step up to the mark