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He rang her while I was away

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Yorkiegirl · 04/06/2005 12:53

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WigWamBam · 04/06/2005 17:04

Oh, YG, so sorry to hear that this has all started up again.

I think I agree with noddyholder - call his bluff and tell him that you think you need some time on your own to work things out. It might make him realise how serious this is, and that if he carries on he could lose you.

LGJ · 04/06/2005 17:44

YG

moozoboozo · 04/06/2005 19:14

YG, I go with what the others have said. He needs to know hoe serious this is.

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Yorkiegirl · 05/06/2005 00:45

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jampots · 05/06/2005 00:56

honey - im sorry to hear this has happened. Be strong and give him sht!!! Oh and give her sht too!!

lillies · 05/06/2005 10:21

Why don't you contact her and ask why she insists on contacting your dh.

Your dh may just enjoy the attention from another woman. If it is all innocent, then he won't mind you confronting her.

I think at this point you have nothing to lose.

Sorry this is happening and I hope it works itself out(((big hugs)))

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Yorkiegirl · 05/06/2005 10:29

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cod · 05/06/2005 10:29

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lillies · 05/06/2005 10:30

sorry YG, that sounded a bit flippant. This is just what I would do, as I would hate to walk away from my dh without knowing the truth.

Hope I didn't upset you xx

lillies · 05/06/2005 10:31

get dh to ring her, and tell her you want a word

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Yorkiegirl · 05/06/2005 10:31

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cod · 05/06/2005 10:32

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Yorkiegirl · 05/06/2005 10:33

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Yorkiegirl · 05/06/2005 10:34

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cod · 05/06/2005 10:34

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lillies · 05/06/2005 10:34

bloody men, eh!! In my opinion though, it does sound innocent enough as a chap who was having an affair would be completely covering his tracks...and would never admit to ever speaking to her.

cod · 05/06/2005 10:34

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Yorkiegirl · 05/06/2005 10:42

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Yorkiegirl · 05/06/2005 10:58

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lillies · 05/06/2005 11:00

what a terrible situation. I don't know what advice to give.

Go round to her house and break all her windows. You'll feel a little better

starshaker · 05/06/2005 11:04

on her nose

starshaker · 05/06/2005 11:05

ooops mean or

rickman · 05/06/2005 11:10

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hunkermunker · 05/06/2005 11:12

Can you meet her? For a coffee somewhere?

Earlybird · 05/06/2005 11:19

If you want to cease contact with someone, you tell them so, and then stop responding to them! The fact that your husband returns her calls keeps him in contact with her. He has no obligation to her, and owes you complete loyalty. Can't understand why he fails to get that.

So sorry you've got this hanging over your head, but agree with others that you've got to put your foot down.