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Pls help can feel myself buckling and can't get through to WA

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BlipinaBottle · 14/09/2009 09:35

I have been trying to get through to WA for the last hour but their lines are too busy.

I asked my abusive DH to leave the house on Saturday evening which he did - has only been back to pick up his car keys and mobile phone charger. He has not taken any of his belongings so i don't know whether he has officially moved out or not.

Our house is in his name only on the mortgage and i have found out that he didn't pay last month or this month, have spoken to him and he says he doesn't see the point in paying it! I am a SAHM and don't have any money except CB and CTC.

I need someone to tell me that i have done the right thing asking him to leave because after hearing his voice this morning i can feel myself weakening - which is why i wanted to talk to WA.

I know i could consult a solicitor but don't have money for that either. DH has not been contributing to the household bills for months now and everything is getting on top of me. I'm sick of the abuse and the beatings but am terrified of going it alone with the kids. I just feel ill.

Sorry for rambling but it has helped to write this down.

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mathanxiety · 16/09/2009 17:45

Be a bit kinder to yourself. You haven't failed and it's not defeat to save yourself and your DDs. Save the anger for the H.

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CarGirl · 16/09/2009 17:53

TBH the marriage was over the first time he laid his fists on you.

I think some marriages can have a few rocky moments in the early years and a bit of shoving and pushing happens but things move forward, are sorted out and never again is there agressiveness or abusiveness of ANY nature.

However you have suffered domestic violence why on earth would you want him near you again?

Stay strong get legal advice speak to WA etc etc and plan your way out if this miserable existence you have tolerated for so long.

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CelticStarlight · 17/09/2009 00:17

Please leave this marriage - just reading what has happened to you is horrifying to me. You are obviously so used to it by now that you cannot see the horror for yourself. Are your children watching you being beaten? If so, you need to get out straight away, you are leaving them open to years of trauma and abusive relationships of their own.

I feel for you, I really do, but you are deluding yourself and your children need you - please put them above any residual feelings you have for this horrible, violent man.