Help me think of some new expletives to describe my husband please

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This is going to be long, so bear with me...some background:

I've been married for 5 years and have a 2yo DS. I've had PND recently and DH is suffering from depression too - currently on ADs.

We live about 200 miles from my family, his family are near-ish. We are in our late 20s.

I recently found out I am pregnant again - unplanned, I had been on the mini pill.

I've been doing my best to support DH during a difficult few weeks - he is unhappy at work, feels 'trapped' in marriage/children situation but says he still loves me, so I've been trying hard to help him.

The other night he told me he had thought of a solution to our marriage problems. He thinks it would be wrong to separate as it would have a negative effect on DS, who apparently is his biggest priority. Instead he has suggested (get ready, it's a blinder) that we share a house for the sake of DS, but tell everyone else we're not actually in a relationship any more, and (this is the best bit) he should be free to have relationships/sex with other people if he wants to!

I know, it's taken me about three days to actually get my head round this. Apparently if I/other people can't handle this, it's because they are too narrow-minded and why should anyone dictate what a marriage should/shouldn't be?

So basically he thinks I will agree to live with him, but not have sex with him/act like his wife, and happily welcome his new girlfriends into our home When I objected to this and said we might as well just separate, he took offence at the suggestion as it would be 'bad for DS' to have separated parents...

I have told him I'm not going to get rid of this pregnancy as I would regret an abortion for ever- I do not want to be grieving for a lost child as well as a fucked marriage. His response was that I've got no right to object to him sleeping with other people then, as 'it's his body and he can do what he likes', just like me keeping this pg. Great parallel, no? (Did I say yet?)

So who would like to join me in thinking up some choice ways to describe this proposal? Honestly, I am on the verge of tears constantly, and if I don't get angry I will just sit and cry.

Before anyone suggests it, I am already looking into rent prices in the area my family are from. Just need a bit of an MN kick up the arse (cos we dont' do hugs, do we )

My three words would be "adulterer," "ex-husband" and "pauper" - the latter because I hope you take him to the cleaners.

I love the way he assumes that there will be a queue of people all ready to have sex with him the second he clicks his fingers.

Is he - in fact - the Diet Coke man?

Wishing you strength and blessings.

So that ridiculous set-up that your OH is proposing is going to be less damaging than separating????? What planet is that man on? If you go ahead with that your son will be confused, upset and traumatised - probably for the rest of his life.

Where does this arshole think all these single women desperate to shag him are?

I can't imagine a bigger turn off than finding out there is a pregnant ex(ish)wife in the next room.

How on Earth does he think having a parade of women (unlikely) traipsing in and out of the house will not damaging for his son?

Again, what a cock.

I have been thinking about this repellant specimen all afternoon .

LaurieFairyCake is right - tell the world about his little plan, including the in-laws. If his own mother does not immediately turn up on the doorstep to vomit on him, then you will at least have an explanation of why he turned out as he did.

What a cock.

Hope his next shite's a hedgehog.

he really is a fanny faced fart bag.

you are best off without him if this is how he feels. don't shed a tear over the fact you don't have to live with this monkeys turd any longer, shed a tear over the fact you have spent so long with him already.

goid what a bollock rash.

what an irresponsible shallow man.so he wants to have his jollies with other women,and pretend to be daddy?dear god

responsible adults support their wife through PND,a horrid illness. he took vows sickness and health,and all that. spouting some quasi liberal marriage is what i call it crap is no excuse for his inability to be a good husband

hope you can get support
maybe go chat to your mw and gp.might be helpful if they know your difficult situation

well, it seems to me that he already has some new lady lined up...

Sorry for not responding - wan't online at all yesterday, spent last night having big discussions about what will happen next.

He knows there is no way that I would live the life he is suggesting - it is all (he stays and we make a go of things, unlikely) or nothing (he moves out).

Looks like he will be going. I think I am going to namechange now as I want to resume my normal MN posting without others seeing my name and thinking 'god that poor cow'...maybe I am being ubersensitive but it's to be expected really!

Thankyou all so much, all these comments were EXACTLY what I needed. I was on the verge of agreeing just to keep our family together - which I know in my heart would be the WORST possible course of action. Thanks

aww good luck

but I don't think anyone is saying "poor cow", they are more likely to be thinking "good on her for not being a doormat"

Good luck EF.

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Good luck in your new life!!

good god, no one would think that, and don't you agree just to keep the family together. you're worth more. x