DH & I have very different ways of dealing with with stress - he's an exploder, I'm a silent worrier. Neither perfect, obviously. Money worries, new baby on the way etc etc (like all of us) so lots of stress to deal with.
DH now exploding on a weekly basis (by which I mean screaming at top of voice everyone but him is an ** moron, throwing things against walls, kicking doors etc) normally lasts about 20 mins and involves as broad a range of swear words as he can fit in (all screamed at top volume) - frightens the bejesus out of our toddler, as well as teaching him a whole load of words I'd rather he didn't know.
About 50% of the screaming is aimed at me and my numerous faults (irrespective of the cause of the issue), and the rest at the world generally. By the he's calmed down I'm sometimes in tears at the things he's said about me, which generally winds him up further (like many blokes, believes women cry as a conscious emotional blackmail tool). Then he forgets it all, and I worry for the next 24 hours that he really thinks these things.
Clearly he would think I was mad for suggesting councelling over this - he just sees it as his way of venting - but it really bothers me, and when the new baby comes the tiredness and stress will get worse.
Suggestions pls ladies!
(would like to point out that despite occasional negative postings, we do on the whole have a good relationship and wouldn't swap him for another :-))