what is the 'split' re housework in your family please?

[sleeplessinstretford]

I am sahm,i get up every day first and make packed lunches for all and see my dd1 out the door to school.DH has breakfast with the baby and goes to work.
i do all the day childcare,meal planning,shopping for food,washing (but not ironing and putting away clothes as he does that) i do'organising' ie sort money/insurance/bills/clothing the kids etc also i take both kids out at least 3times a month (so he gets a free day/afternoon at weekend even if i just go to my mums with them)
DP does evening meal and washing up i would say 5 out of 7 evenings,he also washes up and then does bath and bed for the baby (i do stories and her hair) at weekend we split cooking and do 'big house clean' ie floors etc.
someone on another thread asked why i am acting as his pa. i reckon i get a good deal-how does it work for you lot? just interested (given he works full time and i erm am at home with the baby)

100% done by me except grass cutting, hedge trimming, barbequeing I cannot believe i married a neanderthal!

I am a SAHM and full time student.

DH does alot of the ironing, baths ds and gets up with him most mornings (as he goes to work at 7am anyway). Helps with the garden and does all household bills.

I do all meals, shopping, tidying, washing of clothes and dishes, putting clothes away, changing beds, general housework.

Its not that he won't do it its just he doesn't and somethings he doesn't realise need doing.

I think a 30/60 split (women doing 60) is generally normal.

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sgb

I think your "chore-free time" rule is a good one, but if dh and I were to stick to it I would barely ever get any rest, as he's the sort of person who likes to wind down by doing some easier jobs.

Our big fight we used to have over and over was about how I would be waiting for him to be ready to leave to go somewhere whilst he did some job (say, hung a towel rail) and then when I enquired why he wasn't ready would be told that he was just killing time waiting for me! Hard to explain how infuriating that was

If I have 5 or 10 mins to spare I will sit down and read the paper or go online, but he will start jobs eg cleaning our walking boots, that I would set aside half an hour to do.

Also he is super efficient at getting things done and runs rings around me in terms of output. I basically cannot compete.

I deal with this by setting aside time for resting and time for jobs and just letting him do his thing. It's not fair to ask him to laze around when he wants to get things done, it stresses him out. But that doesn't mean I'm going to start clearing out the shed at half ten on a Friday night.

We both work full-time, though I work TTO and shorter hours than him. He works most evenings.

Food shopping - him
Washing up - the boys mostly load/unload the dishwasher. I do the other bits.

Children bathing/bedtime - they sort themselves out. Though I am around to police if necessary.

Cooking - him

Organise children's activities - we don't really do any these days.

General boring organising life - both

Tidying - me. But the boys are getting good at getting themselves organised (uniform, school stuff, etc.)

Social/school life - both, really.

School run - boys take themselves

Cleaning - me

Laundry - me

Ironing - me, but he irons his own shirts

Gardening - him

Paying bills - him

Organising holidays and outings - both

DIY - him