5 things that your DH/DP(DW) does to irritate you and 5 things you love

[PavlovtheForgetfulCat]

I love my DH, but sometimes he does things that really get on my goat, and I think I would like to get some of them out. And I thought it might be nice to counteract those with the things I love about him.

1. He cannot seem to empty the bath when he has finished, either himself or DD. There is currently a bath full of cold dirty water left from DDs bath last night. I would leave it there all day if I did not need a shower myself!

1. He cleans around mess. He said yesterday he had cleaned and tidied the front room, but what he meant was, he moved junk from the floor onto sofas and hoovered. He left DDs chairs stacked on top of the sofa, he left the hoover plugged in, in the middle of the floor, the chair was in the middle with the hoover, the rubbish bin was full, there were toys still around the floor, polish and cloth is left out! Same in kitchen, things are left out (dishcloths, cleaner, milk, bread) although the floor and sides are clean.

1. He does not put lids back on jars, or put them back in the fridge.

1. He stays in bed too long

1. he snores

but

1. He is a great cook, and cooks most days without complaint.

1. He is great in bed

1. He goes to the shops, I hate getting bread, milk, and he goes, even in the rain.

1. He looks after me when am not well. Have been quite poorly this pg and he has for the most part done lots of fetching and collecting, he will get me paracetamol, or the laptop power supply, he will make me a drink when I want one.

1. He loves a cuddle first thing in the morning.

Add your own.

Bad things

He is appalling at time keeping - always thinks he can go out, pick up something, come home,have a shower and then be ready to go out in "15 mins"

When he is late ( again) and I am fucked off he always attributes it to me being over excited about going out. I am 47 not 7 FFS

He tries to talk to me about important things in the morning when he knows I am slow to wake up

He is quite solitary which is fine but then worries endlessly about being a bit solitary

He is worried about getting old now. He is 7 years younger than me

Good things

He is a totally devoted,loving and attentive father

He is a totally devoted, loving and attentive husband

He works REALLY REALLY hard and then spend all weekend doing jobs at home and taking the children out.

He is a fantastic provider and spent weeks going through my wardrobe to figure out what shoe size I am so he could surprise me with fantastic designer shoes. And he has a fab present for our wedding anniversary on Wed.

He has loved and supported me through some great times and some terrible times for the last twenty years and never once asked for anything except that I love him. Which I do. Very much.

and

Sorry!
Just feeling especially slushy and this thread just encouraged me.

Loving this thread.

Good :

1. Loves me unconditionally
2. Wonderful dad to our DD
3. V generous with money
4. Is great to have a debate with.....his mind is full of interesting stuff
5. Brings me a cuppa every morning (sometimes followed by fab sex)

Not so good :

1. He is the messiest person I have ever met
2. He can never remember where he's put anything
3. Is always late, except for work when he goes in exceptionally early
4. Life is either black or white...he doesn't think there are any grey areas
5. Cannot purchase anything without consulting "Which" first.

I wouldn't change him though!

Annoy

1)Plays on COD too long, too late into the night

2)Answers questions with 'I don't know/don't mind' WAY too often, Have an opinion!!

3)Doesn't talk to me enough. Not much general chit chat that is nothing to do with the kids.

4)Says inapropriate(sp) words.

5)Moans about doing things like massaging me or rubbing my legs when they hurt or I have restless leg.

Love

1)Is a fantastic father and husband, would do anything for us.

2)Does a million jobs around the house and is very very handy , diy wise. (even tho he needs nudging/badgering to get started)
He cooks reheats dinners, cleans, hoovers (when asked), passes me stuff (drinks, laptop wire)does the supermarket shopping.

3)Is fab with kids on holiday and at childrens parties. Leaving me to sit and chat with other mums or lie and read my book on a sunbed etc.

4)He is very funny and always optimistic. Is very very easy going and laid back.

5)Looks sexy when not in his work stuff! (I hate the regulation shirts!)Is trendy and chooses well when buying for me too.

Bad things first.

1. Snores (worse when he's had a drink)
2. Not brilliant with money
3. A bit insecure
4. Farts loudly
5. There is no 5th bad thing!

Good things.

1. Very intelligent
2. Good in bed
3. My whole family love him
4. Listens to me whinge about my work
5. Is the only one how can calm me down
6. He will be an excellent father when we have kids

Sorry, I know I put six points, I could have gone on and on about his good points tho!

Sorry, that should be "who can calm me down". Good thread btw

Ohh good thread!!

Bad things

1. Farts LOUDLY!!
2. Always wears odd socks
3. puts the loo roll on the back of the of the toilet despite begging nagging from me not to.
4. Wet towels on the bed/ scrunched up staying wet somewhere
5. Picks his nose

Good things

1. Makes me feel like the most important person on this earth (Daily)
2. Runs me baths
3. Good in bed
4. Makes me laugh
5. Always gives me the best pillows

Bad: Loves all those crappy gossip newspapers and tells me about it all as if I care...
Watches the News on every channel.
Mashes up a nicely set up dinner...
Wont kiss me if he's got lip balm on, turns his head to the side.
Any thing I have improvised and is fragile, he will come along and clumsily pull it down by accident.

Good: Very clean personally and always smells divine.
Has the whitest teeth, most beautiful smile - always.
Laughs at my antics and patiently listens to all my recaps.
Never forgets things I have told him. (except about fragile shower curtain)
Amazes me the way he makes me melt, even in a strop, he'll always make sure we go to sleep after we've made love and made up.

Good

1. He has ENDLESS patience with everyone and everything.

1. He will go out of his way to help someone and finds it hard to say no - this often works in my favour

1. He's very intelligent and interesting.

1. He's incredibly easy going. He never gets stressed. And never shouts. EVER

1. He's friendly, and gets on with anyone.

Bad

1. He doesn't care about his appearance. I have to nag him to cut his toenails / get a hair cut / buy new clothes. Luckily I don't mind the scruffy look.

1. He lives in a dream world half the time.

1. He would live in squalor if it wasn't for me (and has in the past).

1. He is a terrible hoarder.

1. He's lazy. He'll happily sit around all day doing bugger all. He has good intentions though, he just lacks....initiative or something.

1. He's annoyingly optimistic. All the time. About everything.

Bad:

1. Watches terrible TV, usually programmes on 2. Dave about fishing, lumberjacks, truckers, traffic police and cars.
2. Doesn't see the need for small talk or gossip, sometimes he will find out something really interesting but not tell me for ages because he doesn't think it is important .
3. Has a lower tolerance level of mess than I do so starts to tidy and clean huffily so that I feel guilty.
4. Turns taps/bottles tops too tight so that I can't turn or open them later.

Good

1. Great in bed!
2. Spoils me rotten and tells me that he loves me.
3. Fabulous cook.
4. Practical around the house - can make/fix anything.
5. Makes me laugh.

oops seem to have only put 4 bad things - oh well!