5 things that your DH/DP(DW) does to irritate you and 5 things you love

[PavlovtheForgetfulCat]

I love my DH, but sometimes he does things that really get on my goat, and I think I would like to get some of them out. And I thought it might be nice to counteract those with the things I love about him.

1. He cannot seem to empty the bath when he has finished, either himself or DD. There is currently a bath full of cold dirty water left from DDs bath last night. I would leave it there all day if I did not need a shower myself!

1. He cleans around mess. He said yesterday he had cleaned and tidied the front room, but what he meant was, he moved junk from the floor onto sofas and hoovered. He left DDs chairs stacked on top of the sofa, he left the hoover plugged in, in the middle of the floor, the chair was in the middle with the hoover, the rubbish bin was full, there were toys still around the floor, polish and cloth is left out! Same in kitchen, things are left out (dishcloths, cleaner, milk, bread) although the floor and sides are clean.

1. He does not put lids back on jars, or put them back in the fridge.

1. He stays in bed too long

1. he snores

but

1. He is a great cook, and cooks most days without complaint.

1. He is great in bed

1. He goes to the shops, I hate getting bread, milk, and he goes, even in the rain.

1. He looks after me when am not well. Have been quite poorly this pg and he has for the most part done lots of fetching and collecting, he will get me paracetamol, or the laptop power supply, he will make me a drink when I want one.

1. He loves a cuddle first thing in the morning.

Add your own.

notquitenormal that is my DH's advice reg. not being able to sleep

BAD

he wont stand up 2 his parents !
*he religiously goes in the bath at 7am every morning !
only does half a job wen cleaning and tidying!
has a very limited diet due to being 2 fussy !
spends 2 much time on laptop !

**u may think wats the harm in keeping clean going in bath every day but its the racket he makes banging and clanging about, we have 3 children and 7am in school hols is very unaccaptable ....

GOOD

he is brilliant with the kids !
he is good with his money and never questions why he doesnt have much 2 himself !
tells me he loves me every day !
never complains wen he has to babysit wen i go out with friends !
makes me laugh !

bad;

1. shockingly grumpy and arsey when tired
2. opens post and never throws the envelopes away, as a result our house is littered with envelopes
3. needs to be nagged to do househols taks but when he does is completely anal about it (2 hours mopping floor for example)
4. struggles to say "no" to dd, gives in to tantrums imo
5. struggles to complete tasks, e.g. laundry goes in machine, gets hung out but never put away!

good;

1. v v good with money
2. devoted to his family
3. v loving and kind
4. brilliant with dd, excellent father

5 extremely good at fixing things even if it takes him an age.

Good (sex, hotness etc goes without saying):

• he makes me think about the world differently to how I would otherwise
• he is actually capable of changing his behaviour if he knows it is upsetting for me or other people
• he is completely family orientated and doesn't mind my hilariously large family descending on us at regular intervals. He's even consistently nice to my mum!
• He "plays" with me - it's fun to be so silly and lighthearted
• he gets that I can be hard arsed career woman and sappy "I need a bath" woman all at the same time. And loves me for it.
• he is a very talented musician

Bad:

• he can be oversensitive and is too quick to see the negative in a situation
• he doesn't say what he wants and then gets frustrated because he doesn't get it
• he is supposed to be learning to cook but I've seen nothing yet
• he always comes to bed hours after me
• going anywhere with him takes longer than it would by myself - he's a faffer!

lovely thread - reading it made me feel very happy with DP!

Annoying

1. Does not 'get' small talk. He cannot chat for the sake of chatting (but will give information quite happily.)

1. Does not make 'hmm', 'ok' and other acknowledging (sp??) sounds when I am talking to/at him.

1. Takes absolutely ages to eat a meal if we go out as he is incapable of eating and istening to conversation. He tries hard to pay attention to what people are saying (he recognises some of his lacking social skills!)but this means he gets to eat a cold dinner.

1. Struggles to communicate with DD2 who is only 7 months old.

1. Gets up at 5.30am each morning - long commute to mainland and DD2 is also getting up then - which leads to him falling asleep at about 9pm each evening.

Can you see a theme to his annoying points.

Good

1. Is the nicest, kindest, most accepting person I know and sees the best in everybody.

1. Is a fabulous daddy to both DDs. Plays with them (and their cousins, friends...), reads, takes to park, builds towers, makes junk models - and really comes into his own with them once they can tell him what they want. He also does a lotof stuff with them at the weekends so that I can have a few hours to myself.

1. I really anal about tidying but doesn't have the timeto do it himself - so he will accept that the house is no as tidy as he would like it because I have been too busy playing with the children to do everything.

1. Will do absolutely anything I ask him even if he doesn't really feel like it, simply because I don't feel like it either!

1. Is the least lazy person I know but accepts that I can feel lazy and have lazy days. He bounce out of bed every day but never nags at me to get up even when we have plansto go out - we are always ready by the agreed time.

He is, of course, absolutely gorgeous and sexy and the very best thing of all is that he loves me just the way I am.

I really should make more of a point of noticig the good things about him when he isaroud rather than getting frustrated by the annoying.

Thank you for this thread!

Bad

1. Can only concentrate on one thing at a time - doesn't hear me or DD shouting talking to him.
2. Sees any flat surface as a place to put general 'stuff' and can never throw anything away, so we have display-type shelves and desks covered in crap instead of nice things.
3. Has ten times more clothes than me which are 'stored' in huge laundry bags and not hung up or put away.
4. Snores like a stuck pig
5. Doesn't see the mess around him, doesn't put stuff away properly (big crocker ON TOP OF SMALL CROCKERY!).

Good

1. Really really intelligent.
2. Makes me laugh like a fool
3. Happy to be silly and stupid
4. Brilliant, devoted father
5. Pays for a cleaner

1-Snores
2-farts
3-scratches his bits no matter who happens to be in the room at the time
4-eats a bag of crisps by putting one in his mouth immediately followed by the next one and the next
5-can never go to the shops with ringing me to ask what it was I wanted again, even when I give him a note

1-Loves me, even though I can be somewhat of a grouch occasionally
2-Adores our Dc's and our lovely grandson
3-takes turns with all the fc's so I can catch up on sleep
4-Always clears away after a meal
5-I adore the way he always kisses the top of a little ones head and says "all clean again" when he's changed a nappy

LOVE

1. He brings me a cup of tea in bed every morning.
2. He hates going out on the booze.
3. He always drives, and would rather drive and sleep in his own bed, than drink and stay over. And he'll pick me up.
4. He loves my CS scar (I hate it, he calls it "DS's Zip).
5. He likes my friends (he has even been know to join in a NCT girls dinner because he was too poorly to go out) and my friends like him.

HATE

1. He will put a few things in the washing machine, oblivious to the fact that there is a bucket of nappies/pile of clothes/sports kit etc that could also go in.

1.5 Ditto similar with dishwasher.

1. Rubbish and reluctant at DIY.
2. Will not go into a city unless dragged kicking and screaming.
3. Very "Easy come, easy go" attitude to money. Won't save. I find this very unsettling.
4. Doesn't want anymore DC.

Hate:

1. When he cooks he leaves the kitchen like a bombsite.
2. he cracks his knuckles
3. he hangs his damp sweaty running clothes on the door handles to dry, grrr!
4. he makes me watch Top Gear in the hope that one day I will love cars as much as he does
5. when we watch a movie, he farts around with the sound/picture settings for about 20 minutes beforehand to get everything exact, drives me nuts. What's wrong with just inserting the DVD and pressing play, job done?

LOVE:

1. he is very kind, considerate and unselfish.
2. he catches spiders/moths and the occasional mouse in the house.
3. he is good at housework (apart from the kitchen when he is cooking!)
4. he is funny and a good laugh in company and he likes my friends.
5. he gives good advice and is always on my side.

Bad

1. Drinks and smokes too much
2. Farts too much and is proud of it
3. Leaves wet towels on bed and dirty clothes on floor
4. Knows everything about everything
5. Hogs the laptop / TV remote / bed.

Good.

1. Sex
2. He's a brilliant cook
3. Loves my boys like his own
4. Very affectionate
5. Generous

Bad:

1. Makes sloshy noises when he eats.
2. If he licks his fingers (e.g after a bag of crisps) he makes a little smacking noise with his mouth each time.
3. Always says 'must' instead of 'should' or 'does' e.g 'where must I put this dish?' etc.

4.erm.... hang on... oh yes. watches golf/football/rubgy/cricket/formula one/ and now even bloody darts on telly.

1. Pinches bits of food when I'm cooking despite having been rapped over the knuckles with a spatula to prevent this.

Good:

1. Is the only person in the world who totally 'gets' me.
2. Gets up with ds2 nearly every single morning as he knows I don't sleep well.
3. Lets me practise karate stuff on him.
4. Is brilliant with money and unfailingly generous.
5. Laughs with me, is silly with me, cries with me at soppy films/adverts (manly crying, though).

Bad:

1. Eats like a pig.
2. Irritable/moody.
3. Crap with money.
4. Lazy.
5. Doesn't wash often enough.

Good: Can't think of any at the moment, ooh, I know, he's quite nice looking.

Reassuring to know I'm not the only one who sometimes can't think of any good things about her dh!

Hmmm

bad:
Hangs the mugs up wrong

Never seems to wash the washing up bowl so he is washing in grimy water even when it is "fresh"

Never puts clothes in the wash

Complains about me having mugs all over my desk, but then does it on his.

"Tidies" by pushing everything to the edges of the room.

Good:
Lets me have lie ins most weekend days & days when he is off work

Makes cups of tea

Agreed to a cat he didn't want

Has no issue with me sodding off round the country to meet strange women from MN.

Loves me even though I am a bitch 99% of the time

Bad

1 - Snores. LOUD.
2 - Spends too long on the computer.
3 - Shouts at the DCs if he is stressed about work.
4 - Thinks I doss around all day even though I only work 5 hours a week less than him.
5 - Waffles on and on about techie stuff and carries on even though my eyes have glazed over.

Good

1 - Is very tidy and does more than his share of household stuff - including being the laundry king.
2 - Likes to be at home with me and DCs and is not atall a pub after work sort of bloke.
3 - Has supported and encouraged me when nobody else did through study and working in a job I hated so that i could get a better job and is in awe of me now that I have said dream job. Plus he is not atall bothered that it makes me the main bread winner.
4 - Loves the DCs intensley and sometimes has a manly tear when they do something lovely.
5 - Loves me soooo much even though I drive him insane because I am a slattern around the house and am a bit bonkers and over emotional.

Bad

Would happily live in his own filth, doesn't see dirt, not bothered by untidy house

Can't/won't make decisions

Can't sleep - has been going on as long as I've known him- so wanders round the house all night waking me up but won't do anything about it

C**p with money - which would be ok, but so am I
(only 4)

Good

Really Supportive - always in my corner
Tries really hard to be practical and make decisions although it's not in his nature
Fab dad
Very funny
Great with my rubbish family

1. He is the worlds biggest procastinator, "DP can you empty the bin please?" "yeah i will do at some point...." GRRR

1. He can never find ANYTHING!!!!!! I always have to unt out unifrom for work ect.

1. He cannot get out of beg without having to lay there awake for a while, im a get up and go kind of person so this drives me nuts.

1. He leaves crisp packets and rubbish everywhere.

1. He is an electrical perfectionist, "Is the TV wire out of place?" "(me) no dear it fine"

but

1. He works in a job that he doesn't like much to support us, he gave up his further education to care for me when i was pregnant and very ill.

1. He has an amazing sense of humour.

1. He is great in bed, natch.
2. He loves the kids like crazy.
3. He has put up with an awful lot a shit that some men i know would have walk away from years ago.

Bad:

1. He has yet to learn to cut his toe nails.
2. He doesn't cut his fingernails either, and instead bites them off and spits them out. Regardless of where we are [boak]
3. He can be downright moody sometimes
4. He is a fussy eater but won't admit it (he doesn't really dislike things as such, he just only eats things he loves. VERY ANNOYING)
5. He always manages to put food somewhere on his face or in his hair, and then whinges when I remove it for him

Good

1. He spoils me rotten
2. He can be incredibly thoughtful and romantic when he puts his mind to it
3. Sex
4. He allows me to whinge and rant at him a lot about things that are bugging me
5. Doesn't complain too much about my snoring

Good:
1.He put a teddy in the car while it was parked at my work and left it belted up in the passenger seat for me to find

2.He is very sexy
3.He is a very good dad and loves our daughter, buys her lots
4.He helps around the house
5.Is happy for me to have all the lie ins

Bad: 1.Can be bad tempered
2.Spends to much money on toys for him
3.Forgets that I am only 5ft 4 and puts things out of the way
4.Too forgiving of his dad who is evil
5.Gets priorities wrong sometimes

Bad:

1. Rarely picks anything up
2. Cannot work baby equipment eg install carseats, fold/unfold stroller, set up stairgate
3. Riles up the kids at bedtime
4. Falls asleep 10 seconds after head hits pillow
5. Is usually very chipper in the morning

Good:

1. Always smells delicious, even after 4-hour bike ride
2. Is always patient with the girls
3. Works really hard
4. Is excellent company
5. Always does his share, night and day

Bad:
1 Sleeps all the time.
2 Talks out loud to himself all the time.
3 Never helps clean anything in the house.
4 Forgets everything I tell him.
5 Procrastinator extraordinaire.

Good:
1 Tells me I'm beautiful all the time.
2 Very supportive all the time.
3 Generally very generous.
4 Loves his kids.
5 Makes me laugh.

Just come back in from work and chuckled at how many of these apply to DH, I could have had a list much bigger than 5!!!!! at least that would apply to both good and bad though!

aww, some of these posts are lovely!

bear with me, because my relationship is very new - ask me again in 6 months and i might have many many more bad points!

good:
1: he's very kind and considerate
2: because he's lived on his own for so long, he does all the chores without complaint.
3: he's really getting into cooking even though he didn't even know how to chop an onion!
4: he tells me how gorgeous i am and that he loves me ALL the time (told you it was quite a new relationship!) and he's cuddly
5: even though it's his house and he pays for the tv/satellite etc, he spent half an hour yesterday apologizing and explaining that he would probably want to watch the football on sky when the new season starts, but that he'd be willing to miss a match if i didn't want to watch it!
6 (please?): he's sooo much fun - his (new)favourite thing is belly raspberries and giggles like a child when he does them on me!

bad:
1: he takes 3 YEARS to get ready to go out (then blames me)
2: his house is filthy (seriously - he does the necessary to keep part of it clean, but doesn't quite get deep cleaning - but he's learning!)
3: his cats get hair everywhere.
4: he won't let my chickens come and stay (garden not big enough)
5: he delays me when i need to go somewhere (because he's so lovely and cute and i can't bring myself to leave him!) and my chin is very sore from all the snogging.

I promise i'm not a teenage girl!

He has to make a joke of everything.

He has an annoying DJ voice when he talks on the phone.

He winds my Mother up when she rings then I get it in the neck from her.

He will not get the dc dressed as he says he does not know who wears what .

He falls asleep during every film unless it's a horror film.

He will go and buy /do anything for me and Dc at the drop of a hat.

He often tells me to go to bed /runs me a bubble bath while takes care of everything else.

He always wants a cuddle .

He gets up with the dc most mornings and does breakfast while I feed dd in bed .

He makes me laugh even when I don't want to laugh .

TO ANNOY MY:
He's a grumpy git in the mornings.
He now has my bug from last week but his is 'much worse', ie man flu.
He leaves his underpants on the floor.
He thinks i should know where everything is.
He puts me in charge of 'important docs'.

THINGS THAT I LOVE:
He does my grocery shopping every week.
He puts our son to bed every night.
He puts a wash on if he gets home early from work.
He adores our son.
He hugs and kisses me often!!