I moved to be with my Dh full time a year after our daughter was born. He always said he wanted a family, but I noticed a big change in him when she was born. We drifted apart and I think he felt neglected and that his life was over now he had a wife and child, too much responsibility.
A few months after moving here (away from friends and family) he told me that he no longer wanted to be married anymore, he found it too stressful and felt guilty that he had moved me and our daughter away.
It took a few weeks to come to a head but we reached a point where he changed his mind and decided to make a go of it. This seemed to coincide with me asking him if he was having an affair.
He is close to a girl he works with. This did not bother me too greatly, as he has had female friends in past and i always trusted him. What makes this different is his attitude towards me following the birth of our daughter.
He told me he was out with a boy from work but I found out he was with this girl. He told me he lied as he knew i would not like him going out with this girl, he has in the past and told me and I have not been happy.
He texts her loads, i used to check his phone bill but stopped as it was becoming an unatural obsession! So 7 months later things seemed to be getting better between us, but i sometimes have doubts about where he is. Last week he said he was working one night and could not text me as on a special opeation. A couple of days later I came out and asked him if he had been in work. He got angry and said of course, then was in a mood for a few hours. After that he calmed down and started to be overly nice, almost false to me. He was then in work all weekend but was texting to see how I was and said he loved me.
So am I crazy for thinking there is anything going on with my husband and his work colleague? The only thing keeping me sane is going to work everyday and spending as much time as I can with my little girl, who is the happiest most easy going child in the world!