Text relationships. Why?

[critterjitter]

Does anyone have any thoughts on why a man may choose to text a woman (sometimes up to 50 a day coming in so fast that I can't read them quickly enough) rather than talk to her or meet her? There are sometimes long gaps between texting sessions, sometimes they are daily.

Also has frequently made plans to meet, but then pulls out at the last minute, giving various reasons. Then leaves it a while and asks to meet again.

I've obviously thought about there being another woman on the scene. But, just wondered if anyone had any other thoughts/ideas or could expand on the other woman thing.

Thanks!

But why play me - why not just see me? Can't understand why he spends so much time on me if doesn't want to see me????????

I think cheerfulvicky put it perfectly. I'm joining the 'move on' chorus. Good luck to you

Stop wasting your time trying to understand, critter ........

Tell him straight you don't want a text relationship and to get back in touch with firm plans then cut contact until he is on your doorstep.

I am going to move on. Just feel a bit knocked sideways by it all at the moment. If I read through his (thousands of) texts, and think back to when I saw him, he comes across as very genuine and I think "Oh he's lovely really" etc etc. Then I realise he's gone into another of his long silences (so no texts at all at the moment). He's actually made me feel like a pile of crap, TBH.

I did read the Glamour mag book BTW!

Ah, the 'Why?' question. Why do humans do a lot of things? I think you will never know the real reason. I would just delete his number and any texts he sends.

Next time he texts, get a male friend to call him and say "Hi I just got a text from you?" I will be amazed if this man doesnt hang up before the end of the sentence.

Not called MArk is he?

Honestly, this could have been me 6 years ago - exactly the same situation with someone i was 'seeing'. I spent wasted hours pondering over it and not listening to friends.

Millions of texts, seemed lovely, into me... but would let me down at last minute, or just not turn up, never ever would talk on the phone... The latter doesn't sound that weird i know, but behaviour over certain things was pathological.

In the end I just sacked him off, and am now quite shocked at myself for how much he tied my mind up in knots for a few months.

He still comes out of the woodwork once a year or so with a totally random text. I ignore it.

Never did work him out... possibly had other women, possibly not reday for a 'real' relationship after a recent divorce, or - more likely - a pathetic weirdo? Whatever yours is, forget him. You have better things to do with your mind.

That's funny themachinist!

No, he's not called Mark! Would be funny if it was though!

I've given up with it all. He started sending me all these really quite deep texts the other day and then as soon as he'd got my attention and got into a text 'conversation' with me, he suddenly switched and started abusing me. WTF??

Abusing you? As if all the other stuff wasn't enough! What did he say?

I was in a similar position a few years ago.

We met up a few times. He would constantly text and ring me. It went on for about 18 months. He kept sending pictures, kept saying he would come to my house but would forget/fall asleep.
I found out he had a girlfriend. If i had known then i wouldn't of spent the night with him.
He split up with his girlfriend, carried on texting me, i would just go along with what he was saying to me, didn't take any of it seriously.
Found out that his current partner was also with him around the time i slept with him, even though he already had a girlfriend. He was also sending me naked pics even though he was in a relationship with someone.
He is a waste of space and probably had more than the three of us on the go.

Just ignore him, theres better men out there.

I think it dawned on him that he wasn't going to get me over to his house for the night. He started off his texts being really nice and then started getting really odd (the whole tone and style of the texts changed dramatically - almost as if someone else was writing them). He then ended up calling me a lesbian and saying that he wouldn't be keeping in touch with me.

Some men are just so predictable....

Wanker! Thank god you didn't get in any deeper critter. Congratulate yourself on that.

Yep, my thoughts entirely Franch. Surprised he didn't add 'frigid' too!