I have a very good friend whom I have known ever since our 4 yr old dd's were a few months old. When we met we hit it off immediately and a great friendship developed. Over time the husbands also met and got on just fine - they would never be close friends but got on well enough for fairly regular social occasions at each others houses (we live minutes from each other).
We both conceived our ds's on the same weekend (accidental) so obviously were close during the pregnancies and births. Our dd's are really good friends although they attend different pre schools.
My dh and I have a good relationship but as with most there are sometimes issues. On a couple of occasions I have confided in my friend and the last time was in around February after we had both had a fair few drinks. I was quite emotional (quite normal for me and especially so because I was going through a really tough time with ds who slept really badly!). It was not a big deal though and we talked the next day and she said what are friends for anyway but to be a shoulder to cry on sometimes.
Anyway since then, dh has noticed a change in her behaviour towards him. He has commented that she seems very uncomfortable around him and hardly speaks to him.
Then yesterday at a sport event for our dd's, my friend arrived after the rest of us parents and she said hi and kissed everyone hello, sidestepping dh to greet the person he was talking to. I even noticed this myself.
This morning he announced to me since he is now convinced that he is NOT imagining it, that after Friday (they are coming round for dinner with another couple) he is done with her and does not want to see her again, and that if she is coming round with dd, then I should tell him so he can make sure he is not there.
I am so sad and really upset by this on so many levels. First, does she dislike him? What I talked to her about was really not that serious. Secondly, how can I sustain a relationship with her when there is animosity between her and dh? Thirdly, what happens now for our dd's? Does that relationship also have to end?
I am very nervous now about the dinner party on Friday. It will be interesting to see how she behaves around him.
After Friday should I talk to her about it? I can't just stop seeing or speaking to her without explanation, but I also don't see how I can stay good friends with her if she is being so disrespectful to my dh.
I really need help with this, I'm so upset about it.