Met someone new, does he sound ok to you?

[brazenhussy]

Ok, so I have joined an online dating site for the first time ever.

Emailed lots of men and some sounded nice enough, others ideal and some really weird; usual story I suppose.

The first guy to message me was 37, never married, no kids and said he loved my pic and told me a bit about himself. We had absolutely nothing in common and he was short (a complete deal breaker for me)and on paper sounded completely unsuitable but his email was interesting and funny.

We sent a single email each day just really saying 'how is your search going?' and exchanging funny stories about the people who had contacted us.

Two weeks ago we had a conversation over about 10 emails and I realised I really liked him

Since then we have been texting each other a couple of times during the day and MSNing at night til the early hours. He is so funny and interesting with impeccable manners and old fashioned values.

The thing that has struck me about him is that he won't allow the conversation to become flirty and quickly changes the subject if I do. This is so alien to me.

Anyway last night the conversation drifted to him telling me he had only ever had one sexual partner He said that he wouldn't have admitted that to anyone but felt that he could tell me anything. I asked him why that was and he said that growing up in the 80's with Aids and HIV had made him causious and then he had only had one long term relationship in his adult life.

I told him that it didn't matter to me but that I was a very sexual person and asked if he was too.He said that he hadn't really had the oppotunity to find out but that sex was a very long way down the line for us as he believes in waiting til the relationship is solid and 'going somewhere' before indulging.

Now this guy has his own house (bought as a shell and he has completely rebuilt it)a good job and many hobbies that he is passionate about.

He wants to get the train up to see me on Monday (that's another thing, he doesn't drive ) and is very excited at seeing my city and getting to know me better.

Does he sound ok to you?
Am I the odd one thinking that all men want sex whether in or out of a relationship?
Why has he only had sex with one person although has had a couple of other girlfriends?
Am I going to look like a right slapper if I flirt with him?

Help ladies

he sounds fine.

one of my partners wouldn't have sex for first three months until we got to know each other well. when we did have sex it was FABULOUS!

doesn't mean he has a small dick.

i know plenty of men that have only had 1 partner and in a couple of cases, NONE. and they're in their 40's and 50's. are lovely men, just very shy.

i hate this idea that all men must have loads of partners otherwise they're wierd. it's bullshit.

Why were you worried about him being short?

ILoveTIFFANY - really have a thing about short men and men with small willies, shallow I know but it's a deal breaker for me, a real turn off

well he's 5'8". Is that short, it is, isn't it?

Maybe he was a priest?
OR in PRISON?!!

5'8 isn't terribly short (well not for me anyway, am barely 5'4). BH, is it your experience that greater height is correlated with larger willy size?

Just thinking of one of the largest I encountered was attached to a fairly slim 5'5 guy!

YanknCock No I just like my men tall and I really LOVE willies can't get turned on over small ones

Funnily enough though you are right - i have had two very tall and broad partners who had only 6 or so inches

Right, I see!! Well can see where you're coming from regard height! Mine have to be taller than me to stand a chance really.

I went out with a guy as a student. he was truly lovely but a good catholic. He used to borrow his mum's car and take me out. We always had a good time, and he was really sweet and funny...But then there was a bit of chaste snogging in the car when he dropped me home. He wouldn't come in....It freaked me out after a while and I dumped him.

I bet he has made some lucky woman a lovely DH though. He just had principles and stuck to them, mostly always a good thing.

Sounds like you should give the guy a chance and find out a bit more about what makes him tick, if you genuinely like him as a person...

Oi BH! My DH is 5 foot eight and verrrrrrrrry sexy.

BH i know where you're coming from re:height and yes generally willy size is all relative
to this
but
like others have said there are surprises to be found in smaller men tho i have only discovered this the once
tbh i would find it strange too that a guy that age would not have had that many sexual partners,but the guy i'm seeing atm has had less sexual partners than me
not that i've told him how many notches are on my bed post

No best no to aseriouslyblondemoment

This guy would have a heart attack if he knew about my past

I was discussing with a friend last night (Hi N whether I should tell him or not (obviously not yet as it's early days) but I don't think he would want to get to know me if I did but I am wanting to turn my back on my old life now and try this relationship thing a go.

If I click with this new guy, it will be a new experience for me who has no problem with sex on a first date so maybe he is the way forward

Some men don't need to know everything about a woman's past. DH has a rough idea but he really isn't bothered.

I think he would be terrified if he knew about you, BH, and not for the reasons you may think.

'some men don't need to know everything about a woman's past' - Wel lets hope he's one of them!

if he asks, ask him if why he wants to know

He's "Interesting and funny" but apparently that's not your type?

He's sounds a decent guy. but the tiny willy theory struck a chord, once could hardly get this guy i knew liked me into bed. it was reeeeDICKulous and the reason was, he had a tiny one.

ps, my priorities have changed now. NOT LOWERED, just changed. my x was tall and good looking, and a complete nightmare.

I realise now that a 5.7" guy who was average lookign but decent, funny and happy in his own skin would be hugely raising the 'standards' I set ten yrs ago. I've only myself to blame !

Brazen, apart from his height, do you know what he looks like?

Fwiw, my cousin has only dated 2 women and he's in his 40s, one was his ex-w (4 yr marriage) and the other is his current long-term gf. He's perfectly normal, nice enough looking, just old fashioned, gentle & quietly wealthy rather than flash.

True, if there's no chemistry there's no chemistry at all,none, then all this analysis might be for nothing.

Well these posts have made me feel loads better.

We had another long chat this morning and he was a little flirty I think I hadn't given the poor guy a chance

Heated - yes apart from his height I find him really attractive

I will keep you all posted and thank you

Hope Monday goes well

I would suggest that you may well struggle, as it sounds like he has his life, and will not be willing to compromise on it