Have namechanged for this because feel a bit at my floozyness (is that a word?).
I'm single and happy being single for now. But I do miss sex a lot, mid-cycle especially.
I've known a guy for about a year who I know has a soft spot for me, and I could have a soft spot for his body , but he just doesn't do it for me mind-wise, IYSWIM. He's sweet and a gentle sort though, and I'm sure if I somehow suggested we meet up every now and then for a bit of action, he'd jump at the chance.
The thing is, this is new to me. I was in one long relationship since early adulthood, so rusty doesn't do it justice. And it's not like I'm asking him out in a conventional sense. I want to ask him for sex only. No going out for drinks and behaving like we're all loved up. He's invited me out tonight. I'm not interested. But I am interested in asking him here on his lunch break. (Yes, I'm mid-cycle!)
So, firstly, AIBU to even want this? And secondly, if not, how do I go about getting him to 'friend with benefits' status without behaving like an utter slut, hurting his feelings, etc?
Failing that, how do I find a f*ck buddy somewhere else? I'd happily stay single for a few years, but I am not going sans sex for that long. No way.