So yet another relationship bites the dust and this time I thought it was for keeps...Met lovely DP a year ago after horrid divorce and after 4 months we were engaged. It was long distance and very hard but I thought I really knew him and that we were so in love.
This morning, after me not being able to get hold of him last night and sending more texts than I usually do, he tells me he's really annoyed with my behaviour and that I'm too intense. When I asked him to explain a bit more it all came out; he could never live with me and doesn't really know what he wants. I've cancelled my plans to see him this weekend and told him that given the nature of his true feelings for me, we have no future. It sounds like he'd be happy to have a casual thing (despite him asking me to marry him!) but that's not for me, especially when he lives so far away. I don't want to be with anyone 24/7 right now but I do want something committed that has a future.
Part of me is relieved that I don't have to do the 8 hour round-trip to see him anymore but I'm gutted because I really felt that he cared for me and would never let me go (he himself said a while ago that we must never lose eachother). I'm 51 and have had such a history of unhappy relationships and I thought this one was really meant to be. I know I'll survive but I need you to tell me I will and that women can be happy and fulfilled on their own. I'd love a man in my life but will give myself a few months off after this. I'm telling myself that despite my age I look and feel great and will have a relationship again but that if I don't I can still be happy because I have so much in my life, not least my wonderful 9 year-old daughter. Off to the bog now to have a blub...