Part 3 in the saga of "no sex, despite initiation".
For those that don't know, my partner seems terrified of sex, despite insisting that there is no problem and that he's just 'tired'
Well, morbid curiosity is keeping me going with this and I know a few of you are wanting updates on the strange fiasco too so here is the latest happenings.
HE started off a discussion about contraception last week. I said "I don't suppose it matters, it's not like we need it, is it".
He then said "yeah we havn't so far, but we WILL do ... soon I hope?" as if it's all been my fault!?
So to cut long story short, I decided (with his input) to go back on the pill. I remembered you took the first one on first day of period so specifically timed my doctors appointment for that day. DP seemed very enthusiastic and drove me there himself.
Now, I was due to be staying at his house that same night. So when we got home with the pills, he said:
"So, how long do you have to wait before you can do anything? is it 7 days?"
I genuinly couldn't remember and the instructions didn't say. So I said "to be on the safe-side, I'd say 7 days". He looked REALLY relieved and said "oh! well ... yes, I agree, we should play it safe and leave it for 7 days ... it's good that we both know where we are tonight then ... " so in other words he was relieved that he was off the hook.
Now I would NOT be persisting with this sex thing but he is giving me mixed signals ALL THE TIME. Why on earth would he push the contraceptive thing if he didn't want to have sex? why would he drive me there himself and act as if it had been a long time coming?!
Then that night he's all over me saying "oh, I can't wait for these 7 days to be up" but I know for a fact he will come up with some other excuse in 7 days!!!
If he just said to me "actually, I'm a no-sex-before-marriage guy" I would be FINE with that! but its the mixed messages that are driving me nuts.