A theoretical sex question!

[Jazzicatz]

Twas talking to a friend of mine and we were having a rather pished conversation about sex. I said I thought there is a difference between making love and f**cking even within the confines of a loving, long term relationship. She was aghast and thought that sex everytime with her dp was making love because they loved one another!

Discuss!!!!!

posieparker - now there I agree with you.

BCNS - now there I agree with you even more (except for the socks in bed part )

howtotellmum - no DH isn't weird and if you like him sayng it then he definitley isn't weird.

I just think its the very best when no words have to be spoken at all.

It would be nice to hear what other blokes think.

AF- but he wants to make love!!!
or when he is being really rude he says he wants to give me a good seeing to.

oh yes, seeing-to is good

if he starts saying "make love", just sit on his face

A good banging

Fuck

A good seeing to

If DP said 'lets make love' I'd snigger in his face.

Hey, if it works for you, it works for you HTTM. He's your DH and it's you that's having sex with him, so do whatever suits the pair of you the best.

I hate that phrase, but my h says 'rumpy pumpy' which make me want to run screaming.

Tomming.......

When DH and I first got together we used ot frequent a layby for shenanigans of am amatory nature. The layby was quite near where some friends of my parents' lived. So sex became known as 'going to see the Amesburys'.

OMG, I thought it was just me who hated the phrase "making love".

It makes me think of Barry White, who makes me want to barf.

Don't really call it anything, I'm a believer in actions speak louder than words

EBD.. at socks.. hey can't be having cold toesies now.. but its the winciette (sp) nighty that really sets things off

Mmmm with everyone else on the 'making love' thing...sort of makes you think 'I've got to be coy and behave'...

I'd rather 'get busy' or be 'thoroughly sorted out'...as he puts it...

We both prefer the basic animalistic approach... all that lurrrrve and stuff reminds me of people chatting in the middle and caresses and things. We'd rather be pulled about and held down etc... that's not exactly what 'making love' conjures up in my head anyway.

do you all really disuss it when you/ oh fancies some? because you are making me think that I am weird..as I only have a name for it when talking about it on here or to friends.

At the point of the act.. I don't need to say anything.. it would sort of feel organised..

MN is the only place I voice an opinion about anything of that nature.

In fact MN has bought out in me a curious side that I didn't know I had.

I NEVER discuss anything remotely to do with sex really with anyone but one friend, and that is pretty loosely, jokey stuff.

So...hmm. Wouldn't talk about it but talking dirty is a different matter. Defining it is useless anyway.

The thought of the stroking thing is a bit mills and boon, but in reality, the lightest touch, with a certain look, a massage is about stroking but is definately a very sensual experience,... oh bugger....

I suppose it is beyond words, and whether it takes 1/4 hr and replacing some light bulbs or whatever it takes to seduce each other over however long, folk will still be debating it (if they are not lucky enough to be doing it..grump) for an eternity.

pmsl as DH has taken exception to the 'male beauty' prog on tv and is trying to prove that he is more beautiful in certain departments than them.

I have told him I've an early start and SATs papers in the morning.

boooooaaaaak!!!!!

BCNS - of course we don't discuss it. You are not weird. Words are not necessary.

Thank the lordy for that.. LOL.. I was begining to think I ought to be saying "fancy some rumpy pumpy dear??" lmao