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A theoretical sex question!

66 replies

Jazzicatz · 14/05/2009 12:46

Twas talking to a friend of mine and we were having a rather pished conversation about sex. I said I thought there is a difference between making love and f**cking even within the confines of a loving, long term relationship. She was aghast and thought that sex everytime with her dp was making love because they loved one another!

Discuss!!!!!

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hf128219 · 14/05/2009 19:36

Sometimes known as 'Horizontal jogging'. Or vertical.

FigmentOfYourImagination · 14/05/2009 19:52

Making love is gooey eyed romantic sweet nothings

Fucking is sweaty, grunty, squelchy (lol), dirty fun.

I know which I prefer

EvenBetaDad · 14/05/2009 19:58

Jazzicatz - I agree with your friend. It is always making love.

Me and DW very occassionally say 'making love' (or 'sex') and I always use those words on MN too but after 25 years the words really don't have to be spoken IYSWIM.

Probably a generational thing. I am 46 after all.

FigmentOfYourImagination · 14/05/2009 19:59

Well, DH is 40 and would rather boil his cock than make lurve.

OrmIrian · 14/05/2009 20:00

Theoretical sex? You have to pass a theory test as well as a practical? Well that's me buggered! Or not.

TheProfiteroleThief · 14/05/2009 20:02

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kormachameleon · 14/05/2009 20:03

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OrmIrian · 14/05/2009 20:03

Yes. You are right. Sorry

Will keep it for tomorrow along with the wine

morningpaper · 14/05/2009 20:05

Yuck I hate the phrase "making love" - it makes me think of my father painfully explaining sex to me.

I'd rather be pushed up against a wall and gobbled up thankyouverymuch

AnyFucker · 14/05/2009 20:06

EvenBeta, you are 46

not 86

get a grip

posieparker · 14/05/2009 20:08

We occasionally make love.....usually after a long spell of loathing my husband, but usually fuck.
I don;t really have the time to make love..... and sometimes have used filthy talk to speed the whole thing up!!

OrmIrian · 14/05/2009 20:09

Shag. Fuck.

You make biscuits or cakes or bread, not love.

posieparker · 14/05/2009 20:10

RE Even better Dad, my DH thinks it's making love...I'm not sure the things we do can be called making love!!!

bratnav · 14/05/2009 20:11

DH and I obviously have varying sex, sometimes it starts off fluffy and cuddly, sometimes downright filthy, it always ends up with us fucking each other

BCNS · 14/05/2009 20:12

LOL.. I on a handful of occasions have what I would call made love. It has been the unbelievably emotionally charged gentle undescribable blow your socks off stuff.

mostly I have sex.. sometimes I fuck. sometimes I just swing from the ceiling and yell yahhooo.

YanknCock · 14/05/2009 20:12

My first gynecologist appointment, age 15, the doctor kept referring to sex as 'making babies'.

Even worse, he turned out to be the guy who had piano lessons straight after me every week.

Noonki · 14/05/2009 20:13

I hate shag...it reminds me of a a crap shag...

I know what you mean about the 'making love' (can't say it without thinking of my mum's sex talks...not painful just labourious...)

fuck thing.

we definately have a hot fuck now and again and other times have a much more deep slow intense ...something ...errrrr probably fuck!

OrmIrian · 14/05/2009 20:14

Ha yankn! My first pills were prescribed at the local fp clinic by.....the vicar's wife!

Not that really was traumatic. She knew who I was fucking and she also knew what my parents thought of him

RealityIsMyOnlyDelusion · 14/05/2009 20:18

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lilac21 · 14/05/2009 20:19

My stbx always said 'do you fancy a cuddle?' - immediate negative response, because cuddles should be spontaneous and frequent, and they weren't what he was asking for anyway.

solidgoldSneezeLikeApig · 14/05/2009 20:22

I'm allergic to the phrase as well. And the most unsexy vom-inducing thing in the world is men who use that phrase when what they mean is 'Let's shag because we are both pissed and have copped off with each other in a club and we will never see each other again.'

howtotellmum · 14/05/2009 20:25

is my DH weird then as he says he wants to make love to me?

AnyFucker · 14/05/2009 20:31

yes

howtotellmum · 14/05/2009 20:34

thanks- what should I tell him- or do you want to?

AnyFucker · 14/05/2009 20:43

oh no, HTTM, he is your dh

you sort it

just tell him to stop messing about and fuck you