DP turned on me today, feel really devestated

[Nothingatall]

I have been with DP for around 6 months. He's always been great, we have lots of laughs together, always have a good time and have loads in common. I lack confidence and unfortunately suffer with a stutter, especially when I'm nervous but he's never mentioned it so neither have I.

I have noticed that he never wants me to meet his friends or family or go out around his home but I thought I was being paranoid.

Today we were in asda and I had said I would make him a bacon buttie when we got home. But in asda he bought a couple of packets of noodles. Whilst they were going through the till I began telling him I would cook up some of the noodles if he'd prefer but I couldn't quite get my words together and I stuttered quite badly. The cashier looked at me and DP snapped "Shh for gods sake" I asked what was wrong and he said "just shush, please" and I caught him glare at the cash assistant and he went red.

When we got outside I asked him what he had said that for and he told me it was embarrassing. Firstly that I'd offered to cook him noodles at the till and that I'd stuttered so badly and people were looking.

I was too upset and embarassed to say anything back and I just got in the car. He slammed the door and said "isn't there anything you can do about that? it's so fucking irritating, takes you forever to say one thing".

He then went on to say that it winds him up when I speak during a movie because what would take most people a few seconds, takes me ages and that I never know when to shut up and its irritating hearing the same word being repeated over and over again.

Is this why he has not introduced me to his friends and is he right to get wound up by something I have little control over?

Twat. Get rid.

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Its not often life is made this clear and easy for you! He was awful, he made you feel awful, get rid quick. Its a VERY clear sign. No confusion.

My boss has a stutter, and in the 5 years I have worked for him I have never, ever mentioned it. What I have noticed, over time, is that with me he stutters less and less and we can have whole conversations now where he doesn't stutter at all. I believe that is because he feels at ease with me, knows I don't care and I have never, EVER "jumped in" and tried to finish his sentances for him.

When I'm nervous and upset, I stutter too.

My husband has never mentioned it to me either...we've been together 15 years now.

Please finish with him..he doesn't deserve you.

Nothingatall how are you feeling about it today? Hope you're ok.

Oh, so cross for you. You sound lovely, and you don't deserve this. I know it must be hard, but in some ways it's better he's shown his true colours so early on, and you can hopefully move onwards and upwards.

And if I'd been the checkout person I'd just have thought what a complete tosser he was.

I hope you're ok. Lots of support for you here.

My dad had a stutter, not particularly bad, though it may be that we just didn't really think about it so it was never a problem.

That's the attitude you're looking for, not someone who says you embarrass them or annoy them just by speaking! I mean, what sort of communication are you then able to have in a relationship if one of you can't be bothered to listen to the other?

I do remember my dad reading some poetry to us once, and there was something different about him. Was a little confused until mum remarked that he didn't stutter while reading poetry or singing. I think that's quite well known though, isn't it?

Where do you see this going? 6 months in is still impress your gf time.

Do you know what nothingatall, I read this at the weekend and it has haunted me ever since. Last July I hurt my back very badly. Asked boyfriend, who I'd been with for six months, to take me down to the out of hours GP at hospital as my surgery was closed. He agreed very grudgingly as it would mean he missed t'ai chi ffs I couldn't have driven myself, was in agony, also in the middle of exams so it was NOT a good week! On the way back we stopped at a late night chemist to get my trippy painkillers and diazepam - I was in such a state that it took me ages to get out of the car and as I was getting out of it facing oncoming traffic he started screaming (and I mean screaming) at me "FFS What the FUCK are you doing, get a FUCKING move on" etc etc. Everyone sitting outside a neighbouring restaurant looking, the pharmacist even came out of the shop to help me. Then he acted like nothing had happened. I didn't split up with him over it but finally dumped him in Nov after he had brought me so low. I kept thinking I wouldn't do better (lone parent) and that it must be him not me - he always made me think like that and I used to think - he can't be a bad person, he is a teacher of SN children. This sounds like a similar siuation. Please please WALK AWAY NOW and don;'t give this fucker the time of day. How fucking dare he. Time to get shot.

OP - are you ok?

I don't normally go on threads like this, no particular reason, but I agree with everybody.

You should get rid of the miserable, insensitve plank, and find soemone else.

What a complete moron/arse/wanker/twat.....

So for you.......

And you sound lovely BTW.........

No doubt he will apoligise and you will want to accept his apology but if this is he attitude , then he is not worth it. Its hard to walk away i know but imagine five years down the road and he is talking to you again like that .. it will make your confidence plummet to the basement. How dare he speak to you like that .. the bastard. He needs a bigger guy to give him a dam good punch !! Where it hurts !!

Keeping this bumped as I'm hoping OP will come back to the thread.