Sorry just wanted to rant really!
DD1 in playgroup and there all day on a weds. Her cousins are there in the morning with her but get picked up at lunch time by grandma (who is also DDs Grandma) DD gets very upset when she see's grandma as she wants to go to but she spends the day at playgroup and her cousins will be attending all day after the summer holidays. When MIL picks up the boys she always makes a point of going up to DD which then upsets her as she realises she is not going home with her! Last term we did a library visit, I went and so did inlaws, when we got back to playgroup the staff took DD off me to take her in as they knew she would get upset seeing me going (was lunch time so was coming back at 3 to collect her) so I let them take her but then MIL went in after her and took her a toy to cheer her up which is defeating the whole point of the staff taking her in to avoid upset, I was angry so went in and took the toy away and told MIL not to do this and that DD needs to learn that she stays at playgroup and cant have toys etc and not fair on other children.
THis week when I collected DD the staff told me that MIL had been in to collect boys and had upset DD by going over to her and they had to ask her to leave and tell her DD would be fine. MIL rang me later to say DD had been hysterical and shaking and that was before she had been into get the boys (this was from watching her though the window) anyway I told her Playgroup had told me what had happened and she got annoyed saying that DD had called her over and if she calls for Grandma then Grandma will NOT ignore her and will go over to her. Anyway I told them we had arranged for DD to be eating her lunch on the other side of the room so when Grandma comes again they wont be able to see each other as well, MIL agreed but said if DD called her she would still go to her, I told her not to as this makes DD more u pset, she then siad she would still go etc and basically will do what she wants!
Spoke to playgroup today who said DD was NOT crying prior to MIL going in and DD did NOT call "grandma" and she went over by herself and upset DD! DD also said Grandma came over to her. basically MIL does not want anyone else caring for DD and it is driving me mad. They also have issues with bloke who works there (he is lovely and is a BIl of one of the staff and has gone through the right procedures etc to work there) but MIL thinks its odd that DD likes him and he allows her to sit on his lap at times! Thats another story.
Anyway, it has really upset me and I feel in the middle now as it has caused an issue at playgroup. I did buy them some biscuits toay to apologise for the stress as I feel so uncomfortable about it.
DH wot get involved as his mum is precious and does not like to upset her. She always gets her way and DH has always said to keep her happy and she will be fine It is annoying when your children are involved and she is telling me conflicting info and basically does not like DD going to the playgroup. What SHE wants is to get DD with the boys and have her at her house where she feeds her a pack of ham and a bunch of grapes and says how well she ate
Sorry I really needed to rant, have just had a stressy time with it and wanted a nice birthday yesterday without dealing with all that crap too!
Sorry my spelling is bad, I am typing and not really looking