my dad has just sold his company for 0.4m

[Fio2]

& he gave me 5k two months ago for my half

I'm not surprised fio, i think anyone would

When he gave you the £5K did you sign anything waiving your rights to your half?

Oh shit, fio.

Hope there's something you can do about it. If not hopefully you can take hime to court anyway just to piss him off. I would do that.

Fio - get yourself off to a good lawyer! There is most probably a way of getting redress for this! No matter what you signed at the time!

Don't let it just go!

Fio - for your mothers and you sisters sake you need to get to a lawyer. It's not the money, it's the fact that he has gone against their express wishes for you and your kids to be left comfortable. If you don't do all you can to get your rightful share, even if you are ultimately unsuccesful, you will feel like you have let them down. And it;s not like opposing him now could make your realtionship with him any worse is it?

i feel like abloody joke. I really am not this horrible vile person i feel like, what the hell is wrong with me?

I just felt I couldnt challenge him at the time or ever for that matter. he has made my life a bloody misery for years. i have never been strong enough to stand up to him. I feel so guilty about my sister and my children, I cant believe he has stooped this low.

When I got the forms to sign my "half ' over he had ALREADY put my sisters share in HIS NAME$, even though it was her wish, and it was in my Mothers divorce settlement that HER share went to me and my sister. My sister never made a will, but I was her next of kin, so all her estate (what a joke) went to me. He has put everything in his name of hers. He has all her stuff in her flat as if it is a bloody shrine. i have nothing of hers. I ahve a photo on my shelf of her and that is it. I cant believe such a vil;e horrible man had a daughter as beautiful as my sister, what the hell did she do to deserve the crap short life she had???
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I just feel like i have had the stuffing kicked out of me, i cant stop crying. My husband is telling me how much he loves me as he thinks I have lost the plot. i think i have. i really cannot put into words how i feel and it has nothing to do with money. he can have the money. i just want to rip his heart out and stamp on it I hate his bloody guts, i cant belive i let him do this to me. i am agrown woman ffs

and I felt guilty as he accussed me of ruining peoples lives, all those people who i had employed would lose their jobs, well they have lost them. it has nothing to do with me

Fio, you are having such a bad time at the moment and sound so down - I'm sorry xxx

Babe, dont take his faults as your own, he is a seperate person and you are a wonderful one. Your sister would not be angry with you, you worried and tried to do the right thing by everyone. Honest to god this man does not deserve you taking on board what should be his guilt. You are one of the nicest most caring people on here, i love you loads. Do not let him bring you down again. You don't deserve it anymore. As for the money, you have a lot more in your life than holding on to something so superficial, he doesn't understand the true meaning of life at all. You get joy out of your children which is worth so much more.
Hold your head up high, pity the man and exploit your talents, When you get money from your family ahieving it will feel so much better xx

I know FF i know you are right I just need a kick. My mum keepos ringing as she is worries about me and my husband has just rang and said thank you for the best sex I ever had last night and I cant remember anything

I'm sorry for laughing but that is bloody hilarious

£5k will get a very good hitman. Sorry, I know that's not very helpful.

I'm not trying to stir, but if part of the transfer of shares (and sister's property) has been carried out incorrectly - adherance to wishes, the will, the £5k etc. etc. there is surely a chance his plans might yet be, ahem, ammended...

You have posted that he can stick the money, but it sounds like this, plus control over your sister's posessions (presumably to hurt the rest of the family) are what floats his boat. You may want to seek legal advice for this reason alone. You could always dispose of the cash to charity if you felt like it.

Your sister would be angry all right, but with him, not you. I wish you'd stop blaming yourself for caving in. If someone has bullied you for years it's automatic.

You have a great husband and beautiful kids who love you. Forget that W**r and move on. You and DH are carving out your own business with the property development and will have much more than 0.4 million by the time you've done that for a few years. And he can get lost when you sail away on your yacht - he won't be offered a cabin, will he?

well happydaddy do me a favour and always love your daughter no matter what she turns out like, life is too short for being an arsehole to other people

glad i made you laugh ff, I just had pretend it was wonderful for me too

oh i am dreaming of my yacht anorak

Fio2, I'm never an arsehole. I'm too nice.

Wonder if we will sail past each other fio

topic heading could well have been... my dad has just sold his family for 0.4m

sounds like a poor deal to me

Don't understand how he could have put your sister's share into his name. Surely your other family members would have been joint next-of-kin? I think you would be best to set the whole lot out clearly, every last detail, and put it in front of a solicitor. An initial consultation shouldn't cost too much.

I dont know how he put my sisters share in his name either! I really cannot understand it all but I dont know whether I even want to fight him. Apart from being angry I dont know if I can be bothered. i just need to get it off my chest so it doesnt eat me up

I do feel really stupid though and I suppose everyone else thinks I am stupid too, that bothers me for some weird reason

I very much doubt anybody thinks you're stupid! Take a few days and then think about fighting it. You don't have to do it straight away.

I dont think your stupid, i think your stupid for calling yourself stupid but thats about it. You didn't know any of this as your mind doesn't work that way, that is a good thing. It means your not a game player. Hoorah.