Wives tired of DH/DP's work. Anyone else out there?!

[butterfly74]

Just wondered if anyone else is fed up of their DH/DP's long or unsociable hours at work? When we have time together it's great but my DH works shifts so I'm often on my own in the evenings with the DC's. It'd be nice to hear from others in the same boat for a mutual moan
BTW I do know for sure he IS at work I see the hour sheets and payslips for all you cynics who think he may be elsewhere!!!

on the bright side though, were DH here more, I wouldn't get away with half as much MNing. I'd actually have to make conversation with a real person. yuck.

mogwai - what speciality is he in? I don't know any doctor who can't make plans for weekends.

ABetaDad What a lovely thing to say

My dh was in Afghan for 9 months in 2007- my pregnancy!

You just have to get on with it - life goes on.

Agree completely with you hf128219.

Lovely thing to say and yes, life has to go on, the first week or so is hard but routine helps!

MarthaFarquar - LOL

I completely agree that it must be so hard to have a DP in the forces. When some people have said to me what a "shame that DH works such long hours" I have often replied "it is not that bad, it is not like he is doing a tour of duty in Iraq". I do count my blessings.

Salla, when me and Dh first started our breeding project we worked out that we would be better off (financially) to separate. His wages were that crap. I got made redundant on maternity leave but work would have been impossible anyway as I worked a 60+ hrs a week and would have needed a nanny. Couldn't have affored that option anyway.

So what if someones partner is well paid? Yes they don't have money worries but it doesn't stop them being lonely, does it?

So far, today I have seen DH for 5 minutes. I always stay up for him, should be home by midnight.

Mrsjames martin- It's the law enforcement one. Yours? You were saying exactly what I feel.

I'm sorry if I have offended people, which I think I may have done however, I'm not having a go about my DH's job or complaining about the work he does. I also work and know the pressures that working people are under. I know it's often not a choice and I also appreciate that I am lucky that in today's climate he is still in a job. I love my DH very much and we have a strong and supportive relationship, which I'm very grateful for.

I was simply wanting to have a lighthearted 'moan' with anyone else in the same boat. I think living with shift work is a different way of life. The hours are irregular and often extended when 'a job' comes in. It can be a bit isolating living with the job my DH does and I was wondering if anyone else felt the same and to have a chat.

Mogwai- Good luck with the preganancy x

butterfly, I think our DH's are in the same cult job . I think the hardest part is whe you get that call to say that they are going to be late - maybe 5, or even 10 hours late. You have my every sympathy.

Moan away butterfly. I love a good moan, me.

I find it a bit boring during the evenings, thank God for Mumsnet. Mind you DH had Monday night off and I was "treated" to his choice in TV. The highlights being:

Extreme Fishing (not fisting)
Police Interceptor
5 mins of Family Guy
3 mins of the news
Medical Detectives
10 mins of Top Gear
Police, Camera, Action

I like to call these kind of programmes "Testosterone TV". My idea of hell.

I felt like ramming the remote control up his arse.

God, those programmes sound just like dp's choices .

My dp works away a lot and when he is back, he works at home a lot! Evenings and weekends can be very monotonous. He is self-employed so I guess all the work goes with the territory.

Not offended here!

My husband is away at the moment, only untill the middle of May, but at least I know he is away and so prepare my life and the childrens around that.

What I hate the most is when he is here, but is working late or phones to say he will be late. It kind of mucks up the routine, espicially when the kids know he isnt "away" but he isnt there to give them a kiss goodnight. So I can understand how you feel butterfly. And Im always up for a moan, espicially when there is sod all on the telly!

butterfly, what job does your DH do? [nosey emoticon]

Hi,

My dh is in the forces and I think in a way it sounds easier than having to contend with last minute late nights and lots of working from home; it drives me mad when dh is 'weekending' as he slopes off on Sunday just before I put the distraught kids to bed then turns up on Friday to make it mini holiday time which is fab but makes the Sunday crash even worse! At least when he's away for 6 months we do our own thing and the boys get used to it and it's not constantly up and down. I do like it when he's here though, it feels like a real treat.

Not being able to book hols or anything is a pain as is having a serious lack of life because I can't really go out in the evening without having an agency sitter.

Que sera though, more time to mn, read and watch box sets of my choice and eat whatever I want whenever I want it.

Thecrackfox- that really made me LOL!! Why do men have to flick and can never watch a program til the end? And just one remote we have about 4 for all the different telly related gadgets I can never work out how to watch the bloody thing!!!
In answer to your Q the job is CID.
Martha Farquar great name by the way!!

Thanks for all the lighthearted moaning.