ABetaDad. A big decision? No. It wasn't. It was the easiest decision I have ever made in my life. It has been harder to decide what to have for breakfast! It was just so natural and right that there was never any other choice to make, iyswim.
The whole story is this - I met him, went back to his place (house!) for a bit. . Then he came back to my place (bedsit!) and never left! Just went back to his place every couple of days to get his post and some clothes. I had the keys to a flat I was to move into and he helped me move in a couple of weeks after we'd met. He moved me in and then turned to me and smiled and said "When do I get my key then?" I said "you don't" and he said "Go on" and I did. .
About a month after we'd met, we just talked about getting married in a year maybe if we were still together. Then we said "why wait?"
So we booked the registry office for the first available date. Went shopping for outfits, arranged to have a meal in a pub near the registry office and our friends who owned a pub near our flat said we could use their room for free. We got the catering students at the local college to do a buffet (fab food and dirt cheap - they are always looking for opportunities like that!).
Then we decided to move down south, cos dh wasn't happy up north. So a month after we married, we both gave notice on our jobs and on the flat, stuck a pin in a map and he went down there to find us a flat and look for a job, while I worked my notice and applied for jobs down there. He found us a place and my sister and bil helped us take all our stuff down there. I got a job at the council, he got one at a home for adults with ld.
A year after we moved down there, ds1 was born (he had a birth injury that left him with erbs palsy) and we bought a house. 15 months later, ds2 was born and shortly after that ds1 was diagnosed with autism.
When ds2 was born we set up a business and 2 years after that ds2 was diagnosed with autism! For 4 years the business did fabulously but then I got ill, and the needs of the kids meant time and attention was with them (as it should be!) but we lost the business and everything, (and I mean everything) and came back up here.
Some things are just meant to be, I think. When we met, it seemed like we had known each other all our lives. He didn't feel like a new person in my life, he was so familiar to me. (he isn't from this country, had lived in London when he moved here, then only moved to where I was from a few months before we met, so there's no chance we knew each other before!)
flipping heck, I got a bit carried away there! Bet you wish you'd never asked me a question now, don't you?