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Pregnant with second child am I mad to be happy

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ninah · 25/04/2005 08:39

dp and I have been trying on and off for a 2nd child, had mc last year. Our relationship is up and down. The other night he said some awful things to me, that we were finished etc but he had been drinking and couldn't remember them the next day. Thing is next day I found out I was pregnant!!! we went out for dinner and I told him, he was pleased and started talking about names etc but then suddenly he turned, picked a fight and then told me to get a termination. I am totally confused. I'm reluctant to have 2 children on my own in a practical sense but the more I think of it the happier I am about the child, and that my first child won't be alone and just feel great about it all. DP has an older child by previous relationship, he has never paid maintenanace and CSA are now involved I think this is on his mind. He earns a good salary and has just bought a 30,000 car but he hates to think anyone else has a claim on his cash. One thing that made him angry is I said that I would work part-time not full-time with 2 children so I could spend time with them and he says I want the life of Riley (!) I'm alternating between feeling total panic and feeling very very happy about my 2nd child. Is it selfish to go ahead regardless?

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ninah · 10/05/2005 09:33

yup, well you haven't met my dp!
he's what you can a glass half empty bloke and it can be contagious!

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CeeTee · 25/08/2005 19:02

Keep the baby....Lose the guy.

Loobie · 25/08/2005 20:28

Noticed this rising tot he top again.Hows things ninah? hows the bump? Are you still together with dp?

ninah · 30/08/2005 12:51

hello Loobie, great to hear from you
bump is huge! still with dp, treading water, keeping going ... get sad from time to time, but on the whole life isn't bad.
How's your friend getting on?

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Loobie · 30/08/2005 16:45

She is still on her own but is gradually getting the guy out of her life,they were attempting to get back together but he is continually takling the pi$$ out of her and she is getting over the pg hormones and starting to see things logically now.I will obviously continue to support her whatever way she wants to go but considering yesterday she was violently ill with s&d and he was too busy getting a bath and doing 'stuff' to come round and help out, i ended up with all her kids so had 6 kids to look after last night and get out to schools and nursery this morning so think she is gradully opening her eyes and his days around her are severely numbered!!

ninah · 31/08/2005 12:49

omg if she didn't have you to help she'd be sunk! know what you're saying 'bout the hormones, half the time I can't decide if I'm getting upset rationally or not iyswim; I'm sure all will become clearer in the New Year. Nothing has happened as bad as when I started this thread but I feel there are 'issyoos' simmering ... Thanks for all your support Loobie

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