I know what you're going to say.

[shellshockedstunned]

Regular, name-changed.

Been having some problems recently in relationship, and this evening he completely lost it with me. He wandered off muttering under his breath, and I was making his tea and got a bit mouthy.

Suddenly, he came bursting back into the kitchen, shouting at the top of his voice and got quite physical with me, and I'm now a bit bruised on my ribs and arms.

He's horribly contrite now, and he has had a difficult week, largely because I've not been on top form healthwise and emotionally. He says he feels awfully ashamed, not least because one of our toddlers came in and asked straight out 'Daddy, did you get mama?'

I'm at sixes and sevens.

You could get someone to take some photos of your bruises, just incase you ever need evidence.

Thinking of you.

Glad to see you getting some spark back Kay

I'm not in denial, dittany - he attacked me, and I told him if it ever happened again I was walking.

I appreciate what you're saying, but I don't want to change my mind about pressing charges, I have quite enough crap to deal with right now without trying to navigate through some nightmare situation which could mean him losing his job or something.

Kay please think of him as a stranger attacking you - and then think that stranger doesn't know you, isn't supposed to love you and what they did was revolting - even more revolting isn't it when he is supossed to love you.

I am glad you have come out of this with a strength you didn't have beforehand - hold onto that as you go forward and make damn sure that he relises how totally unacceptable his actions were and make sure that next time you will act with the law on your side and press charges.

Kay - I'm so so sorry. Don't know what to say other than the religious: I will pray for you, and if ever I can do anything else, I will.

I thought I hadn't seen you round for a bit (was going to start a thread to lure you out - something like AIBU to expect Doctor Who to promote literal six-day creation ) but I had no idea it was anything like this.

Press charges or don't press charges - only you know your situation. I have huge confidence in your clear-thinking intelligence and emotional resilience, and I think you will know the right thing to do.

Good luck Kay. It may be that he will get a grip, get counselling on his own and NEVER DO IT AGAIN. I hope you have plenty of RL support: you know you have loads of MN support, and whatever you decide to do next, that support will be there - take your time and make the decisions that are right for you.

ANd as I said, feel free to CAT me if you want to.

I think he's going to leave for a bit. Blimey. How the heck do I manage with four kids on my own?

Kay - has something new happened? This sounds pretty far forward frm the start. How are you coping?

[I've also been on and seen some of your threads and feel for you as you try to work through these issues]

Are you alright? Is this your decision or his?

Thinking of you.