Strip Clubs

[ItsGrimUpNorth]

How do you feel if your DH goes to strip clubs?

My DH has been going to about four stag dos a year now for ages and they all end up in strip clubs.

AFAIK, he doesn't go to them apart from stag dos.

I hate the thought of DH leering and gawping slack jawed at strippers with all the rest of the desperate raincoats. It just seems like such a loser thing to do particularly as they're hardly classy places and couldn't be described as burlesque!

I feel like I lose a bit of respect for him each time he goes because it's like that's he views women - there for his and those cheesy men's titillation. It gives me the creeps TBH.

Shesells:

I do actually know for a fact, and no it is not from drunken men. I have been to a stripclub in Vegas with my mom funny enough and in these places it is classy and it is regulated. I would imagine that the women who work there do not see the men as potential hubbies but as ways to make money.

I am talking more along the lines of stag/hen do's where you can hire a stripper. In the states it is more common to have someone come to your home rather than going to a club. My DH has been to a few of these and has seen men doing things that would otherwise not be allowed in a club. I have also seen women getting it on with men in the same situation.

I also used to be 'friends' with a girl who danced. She was one of my students mom's actually. I did not agree with it no, however she had to make a living and she had rules and standards (if that doesn't sound to cliche). I heard many stories from her as well and she was never drunk on the job...

So yeah, I have many sources to back up the point I made earlier.

Interesting to hear all the views.

I am not surprised at all but my DH (who is as far from a sexist drunken tosser as it is possible to meet) says that many lies are told to wives/girlfriends after stag do's (and by men who you would not expect it from).

Personally I would much rather find out the truth than kid myself that he went home after the meal.

I went to a strip club once, I thought it was awful - I'd have paid them to put their clothes back on.

I would be extremely upset of my dh went to a strip club. Whilst I accept that some strip clubs are well regulated etc I believe that men paying to see women dance naked/half naked etc is just plain wrong. Do you really think that "stripper" is a legitimate career choice for a young girl??

Where I live the majority of girls "choosing" to strip for a living are doing it because they have no other choices or to support a drug habit.