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Axe-Murderer update number 2

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BatmansWilly · 21/03/2009 10:03

For those that are interested, here is a 2nd and, I hope ... final update on my axe-murderer bloke story.

(if you're not interested, please don't comment with " why you still bothering" etc ... its all light-hearted!)

So, last night I left my MSN on whilst I watched a movie downstairs. Forgot it was on. When I came back up I had a few messages from axe-murderer...

"Hi babe x"

"You there?"

"So I take it you're out sucking cock all weekend then with your string of blokes? good job because you couldn't handle a real man, even if you do karate"

SO I bit the bait and said "I was downstairs, you need anger management"

well...this opened up hours of wierd, sometimes abusive messages. I was too intrigued to block or turn it off so I carried on talking to him.

I think he may have been drinking. He started going on about how he was ex para and the government had screwed him over and he was only trying to do his bit for the kids .... how everyone in his town now "wants sum" and he can't go out He started on about father's rights, how he should be like most blokes and beat up women to get what he wants. He said something about "out of control females" and was rambling switching from nice guy to mr nutcase.

He told me he could "kick my arse" karate or no karate AND he could "kick my instructors arse too" Then he started with the "bitch, you're trying to play with my head, you slut" and he said he felt sorry for my kids!?!

I think I was annoying him more as I'm pretty impossible to offend and kept suggesting councilling and anger management lol.

Oh and he told me he's done "some bad things".

I said "we all have" so he replied "no, I mean really bad things babe..."

I think he was trying to make out he was someone famous/well known criminal type too because he said "if you meet me face to face, you'll see who I am"

Oh yes, and after all this he decided to give me an ultimatum ... make a deal so to speak :

"You meet me outside (pub) at 2pm tomorow (today)" errr yeah right! after you've just revealed yourself as a raving loony!?!

So that is axe murderer update number 1. All I can think is THANK GOD I did not give him my address when he was trying to get it. Complete nutter. He now even admits that he's unstable ... but that's all Britains fault of course.

Be careful with the online dating thing!!

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BatmansWilly · 21/03/2009 10:05

sorry, number 2, not 1!

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fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 21/03/2009 10:05

I hope noone actually ever meets him!!

macdoodle · 21/03/2009 10:10

But honestly why did you keep talking to him I am genuinely curious??
Just to wind him up?? because to em thats akin to baiting a wild animal - stupid and cruel

BitOfFun · 21/03/2009 10:11

Cripes, he sounds a bit rapey...I'd report him to the dating site at the very least, even flag it up to the cops. What if he turns out to be like that taxi driver bloke?

I know you aren't bothered, but please block him and be careful, it would be awful if he tracked you down, he sounds fecking bonkers

macdoodle · 21/03/2009 10:11

Sorry maybe I dont have a sense of humour but I just dont find it remotely funny - you have just proven to him what he believes about all women god help the poor woman who does fall for his stories

RealityIsMyOnlyDelusion · 21/03/2009 10:13

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BatmansWilly · 21/03/2009 10:20

Macdoodle, you're right, it isn't funny. I suppose I am too laid back with these things and I hope some poor woman doesn't fall for it and meet him. He reminds me of one of those men who "decides" his wife is shagging the shop assistant in tesco because she smiles at him and then gives her a good kicking for it when they get home. By the sounds of it, his ex has tried to stop him from seeing his daughter, perhaps that was down to violence.

I suppose I keep talking to him because I genuinly was intruiged by what he was up to. Have you read my previous threads? he seemed to be trying to get me on my own and I just wanted to know if he really was sinister.

At least now that I know he is, I can report him rather than just leaving it ... not knowing if he's currently suggesting swapping home addresses to some other woman.

I have saved the msn convos. I will send them today.

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macdoodle · 21/03/2009 10:24

Batman sorry I have read your other threads - I guess I am just more wary online - I almost always only chat to people I know or know through other people IYSWIM or have "got to know" online on a public forum first - and anyone who makes me remotely uncomfortable I block or delete - but yes I hope you can prevent him from getting to someone else who may not be as strong or as clued up as you - I reiterate lucky escape and NOW please block him

cheerfulvicky · 21/03/2009 10:37

I understand your need to keep going back for more - it's morbidly fascinating isn't it? especially when you are sat at home with a glass on wine and the radio on, laughing away at what he posts. However, imagine sitting in a car with him at night, as you start to understand what has already been made plain to you - that he is BONKERS. Imagine how terrified you'd be if he knew where you lived. That could well happen to some other poor woman off the dating site, so as well as reporting him to them (he will just go elsewhere when he is banned) I would tell the police. There's something deeply worrying about him, and although you're smart enough to see that he's mental, if you weren't as savvy, it could have been a different story.

Your conscience would be a lot clearer if you reported him...

CaptainRex · 21/03/2009 11:22

I would be careful too.

A friend of mine met a bloke via ICQ (pre-MSN days) and started dating him. He too was a ex-squadie and nuts. He also used ICQ to hack peoples computers as they chatted to him - now I'm not sure about MSN and its security, but its entirely possible that a good hacker could use it to hack into your computer

MrsMattie · 21/03/2009 11:25

He sounds like a fruitcake. Block him immediately and report to police.

izyboy · 21/03/2009 11:30

Frankly allowing him to send this vile shit to your computer almost seems to be aiding him with his sick fantasies. Sorry but you really should have shut him down as soon as he started getting abusive. You would have only needed a small sample as evidence for the dating website. And yes I did read your previous thread.

izyboy · 21/03/2009 11:37

That post seems quite harsh when I read it back, apologies, I am just concerned that he is getting off on the stuff he is sending to you. You are in essence allowing him to do this by not blocking him. I know you are suggesting counselling etc. but really he is not taking that on board in a reasonable way, therefore he needs shutting down literally. It's just not funny anymore.

Lulumama · 21/03/2009 11:40

christ almighty, it is not funny or lighthearted

he is abusive, unstable and potentially dangerous, at best a deluded liar

block him and consider forwarding the convo to the police and the site administrators

why would you even engage with someone like this??

Monkeytrousers1 · 21/03/2009 11:43

That sounds like one disturbed individual. I wouldn't play with fire..

SkintColditz · 21/03/2009 11:47

be FUCKING careful - you are more tracable than you think. Just because someone is a raving loony doesn't mean they aren't intelligent and resourceful

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lou33 · 21/03/2009 12:27

he sounds dangerous and i dont think you should be having anything to do with him at all

he is not typical of online dating though, i promise

sincitylover · 21/03/2009 12:27

which site is he on BW?

The site would probably want to get rid of him given wht you have said. I saw on one of the sites I am on, the profile of someone who was acquitted on appeal of the murder of a very famous person. His profile was not there for long.

Whilst he may not have comitted that crime he was stalker material.

I think you really have to 'suss out' who you are talking to and any red flag signs withdraw from the convo.

sincitylover · 21/03/2009 12:28

excuse my poor grammar btw

Sfendona · 21/03/2009 12:44

I dont find it funny at all.

Why are you talking to him???

I agree with others you must tell the site and the Police.

Janos · 21/03/2009 12:47

He sounds bloody frightening.

Haven't seen previous threads but based purely on this one you need to block him at the very least and if you met him on a dating site then definitely report him.

You seem to be treating it as a bit of a joke which is very worrying.

I appreciate it's hard to show 'tone' on a internet message board though.

PottyCock · 21/03/2009 12:52

I don't find this funny either - this guy sounds completely unhinged and the fact that you've baited him for hours for amusement I find pretty odd also.

knockedgymnast · 21/03/2009 17:09

At least now BW, you know now that he is a sarny short of a picnic. I don't actually think you did anything wrong in talking to him like that. It was HIS choice to start abusing you, not yours. It was HIS choice to get angry, not yours and as for calling you a slut, it beggars belief

I think he is definately really lonely and perhaps 'society' hasn't given him a chance etc, etc but more than likely, he's a nasty piece of work....Are you sure he's not on day release from an open prison or something? My friend got duped that way....

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