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Really stupid things you and your DP/DH have had massive rows about....

162 replies

PuppyMonkey · 06/03/2009 13:17

Me and DP had a corker last night - he thumped the wall and strode off to bed early in a huff. The works. Because...... wait for it.....

We were watching that Red Riding thing on TV and I was trying to explain the plot. And he wasn't understanding and I was getting very impatient telling him the same thing over and over. It got REALLY HEATED.

Honestly, I nearly felt like divorcing him except we've never actually got married.

We kissed and made up this morning though.

OP posts:
Ozziegirly · 09/03/2009 11:00

We will often be having a nice evening listening to music, and then as the evening progresses, he wants different songs to me, and vice versa.

I have stormed off to bed before, after proclaiming DH a "music nazi".

finknottle · 09/03/2009 11:38

Politicians - he thinks they should all be shot and there should be anarchy. Not even Anarchy in the UK but in Germany which is such a contradiction in terms...

I think anarchy means all the fat bastards grab all the food, water & utilities and we'd end up swimming in our own poo and our children would starve. He'd be too busy gloating to forage or even notice.

Lighting the fire, keeping the fire going. He lights it twice a year, it goes out. He has finally learnt to keep his opinions about lighting to himself, but when I leave the room, he keeps sliding over the lever which stops the air getting in & makes the fire go out.

Othersideofthechannel · 09/03/2009 11:52

Lawks, lists are essential to harmony in this household too.

BalloonSlayer · 09/03/2009 14:13

We argue about class as well as twixes.

DH says I am middle class because my parents owned their own house.

DH says he is working class because his parents lived in a council house. But to DH, the fact that he owns his own house, has a highly-paid job and nice car etc etc does not make HIM middle class. OH no. That accusation is deeply offensive to DH. Very, very offensive.

Oh the discussions we have had.

(Perhaps I should tell him that saying that one stick of twix is a whole twix, is a very middle class argument?)

SpangleMaker · 09/03/2009 14:49

Most frequent arguments are about DH's pathological inability to be on time for ANYTHING. The only way I can get around this is to lie. Once I forgot I lied about the time a flight was due to leave, doubled up on the contingency and we arrived an hour before the check-in desk was open. My excuse was that the last time we travelled, he lingered over breakfast and we nearly missed the flight. I would've been prepared to apologise & buy him beer/cake/whatever but he went off on one about how he could've had a lazy breakfast

The stupidest one, though, was about an oven glove. I bought an oven glove with a 'humorous' B&W 50's photo of women eating spaghetti. He thought it looked like they were puking. This escalated into a massive row about the right to express our individual tastes - I had just moved in with him, he is a designer & very particular. I told him he was denying me the right to have the home I wanted etc etc.

Needless to say when we built an extension & fitted a new kitchen I made a huge song and dance about choosing a new oven glove together. Not that I bear grudges or anything

PadDad · 09/03/2009 15:34

I would welcome more lists in our life. I am more than willing to pull my weight around the house.

But DW doesn't want to be a dictator in the house, so she mostly refuses to make lists for me.

Doesn't stop her getting pissed off when things aren't done, though!

She just wants me to perceive what things 'need' doing. Given that her hero is Monica-from-Friends, her assessment of what 'needs doing' and mine are somewhat at variance.

PS.
One of us left the house for three days (pre-DC) because of an argument over Freud's theories of the unconscious.

GetOrfMoiLand · 09/03/2009 15:51

ABetadad - oh dear. I think if DP made me bend down to waist height to check for smears on the worktop, I would strangle him with my J-Cloth.

My most epic row with DP was about the location of Alexandra Palace - I said it was North of the river, he said it was South (he got mixed up with Crystal Palace, so I was right RRHAAAAHAAAHAAA!)

I do not remember why we were arguing about said palaces, as we have never been there and have no plans ever to.

Poledra · 09/03/2009 15:54

PadDad, we now have meetings, fortnightly, with agenda and minutes, to sort out all the big jobs in the house (decorating, repairs etc) and plan holidays and so on, and even sort out some of the small things. I currently chair them (as I set it up) and I write the minutes. It is the Only Way to get DH to sit down and discuss these things without him accusing me of nagging. OK, it's desperate but it works.

ABetaDad · 09/03/2009 15:57

OMG - Poledra.

There are two of you!

I married to the other woman that holds a 'morning meeting' with a set of agenda items and notes.

GetOrfMoiLand · 09/03/2009 15:59

Paddad - surely you realise by now that your duty as a husband is to instinctively know.

Poledra - that is a frighteningly good idea. However, How formal do you make it? Do you sit at the table formally and distribute copies of the minutes to all interested parties after the meeting.

In my house we would probably have a half arsed meeting on the sofa, with wine, which would probably tail out and end up with me and DP watching repeats of Life on Mars, or soemthing.

Sycamoretree · 09/03/2009 16:01

We argue about the colour of things:

It's black!

It's brown!!

It's black!!!

IT'S BROWN!!!!!!!

It's BLLLLLLLLAAAAAAAACK !!!!!!

And relaaaaaaaax

PadDad · 09/03/2009 16:15

ABetaDad, Poledra, I have been thinking about this idea of meetings with agendas and minutes. I think it might help.

Care to post examples?

ABetaDad · 09/03/2009 16:35

PadDad - it will not help.

Our 'meeting' is not in any sense a two way flow of ideas. It is me getting my instructions and picking which battle I should fight as a sort of rearguard action.

Don't go there.

PestoMonster · 09/03/2009 16:41

We had a row about what makes tiger bread so tasty. I said they put sesame oil in the mix. DH said they must paint it on the outside.

I was brave enough to ask one of the bakers in Asda this morning. He told me they painted them with sesame paste.

I have just informed DH. He was smug.

Twims · 09/03/2009 17:03

ROFL at some of these

schneebly · 09/03/2009 17:11

We once had a huge row which started off with me me being annoyed at him for reciting each line of a film he knew very well but I was watching for the first time. I kept missing what they were saying.

Still haven't seen it to this day. The stupid thing was he was insisting I watch it because it was "one of the best films of all time"

You want to guess what it was?

Shawshank Redemption?
Godfather 2?
Usual Suspects?

No, it was.....Highlander! PMSL

Pesto - we like tiger bread too yum!

Grumpyoldcaaaaaaaa · 09/03/2009 17:16

arguing over theoretical lottery win

The Twix argument is my favourite (I am in the half a twix = 1 finger camp)

Poledra · 09/03/2009 17:43

Hmmm, not sure about posting examples - my irrational paranoia about being recognised here is kicking in (though perhaps the very fact I admitted to these meetings is anough to 'out' me). Will maybe need to doctor up an agenda to be suitably anonymous first.

Poledra · 09/03/2009 17:45

Oh sorry, GetOrfMoiLand (love the name BTW) missed your post. The meetings are generally on the sofa, can be with wine (though I'm still bfing so am a complete shandy arse) but are definitely not with the telly on. And yes, I circulate the minutes (via e-mail) afterwards as these are The Proof that he agreed to do something, or that I could go ahead with something.

Monkeyandbooba · 09/03/2009 19:24

I have just remembered that we argue(d) about the colour of one pair of DH's jeans. I say they are grey he says they are mushroom - I am right. We also argue over the colour of one of his suits, I say it's navy blue he says its black - I am right.

Monkeyandbooba · 09/03/2009 19:27

(ps I am currently having the Twix Debate with BIL)

stainesmassif · 09/03/2009 19:40

where are the music files held on the computer - he told our friends a 'funny' story about me deleting them from itunes when obviously they were also on the c drive. well durr....

sweetgrapes · 09/03/2009 20:25

We argue about lists too.

He comes in and says 'where's the pen'. So I point it out to him. Then he says he's not going to write. And it's me that needs the pen. So I ignore and carry on doing what I'm doing till he wanders off and either forgets what it was or gets 'his' own list out and starts writing.

Every weekend he wants me to give him a long list of things to do (interesting ones mind. Buy the wine kinds rather than scrub the floors)
And it has to fill up him time or he comes yapping at my heels agan. FFS I'm not his keeper. He can fill his own time, get a hobby, something.

Thank god his office is very busy so he doesn't demands lists from me now.

sweetgrapes · 09/03/2009 20:30

Also, whoever has the time to bendover to eye level to check the smears has time to fix them as well!

dancingonmice · 09/03/2009 21:05

DP and I both like the odd list, otherwise he bugs he asks me what he should do every 15 mins and it gets on my nerves.

When we first met we had a major row about sandwich fillings. We were a bit poor and I took exception to him wanting ham and cheese on the same sandwich. Cheese and pickle fine, ham and tomato fine. But cheese and ham no, no, NO!