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DH is driving me mad

55 replies

Geetar · 05/03/2009 11:05

My problems with DH are just ongoing and I'm getting to the point where I just want to walk out. I really can't take the atmosphere, the snappyness and childishness anymore.

This morning he blew up over something so silly. At about 7.15am the neighbour knocked on the door. DH said we were not to answer it and the "fucking neighbours" should know not to knock at a ridiculous time.

He knocked twice and then left.

15 minutes later the post man knocked with a parcel. DH shouted "fuck off" at the top of his voice. Much giggling from the kids.

Postman stormed off down the garden path and left the parcel with the neighbour. Needless to say, 5 minutes later neighbour came back and knocked on the door. I had to physically hold DH back, he was going nuts.

At 7.45am the electric meter man knocked at DH just lost it, ran to the bedroom window and started shouting out of it that he was sick of people knocked on the 'fucking door' and was it really too much to ask to be left alone etc. The electric man shouts up "I've only come to read your meter" so DH tells him to "fuck right off" before he "twatted him". The electric man shouted "moron" at him and started walking away and DH started shouting after him "You fucking turd, I'll knock your fucking mushtasche off your face you c"

Electric man sticks two fingers up to him. At this point another neighbour shouts across "Do you mind! I have kids here, I don't want them hearing the local nutter shouting and swearing at 8 in a morning"

This prompted DH to start ranting at her about her "fucking feral kids" and that if their ball ends up in our garden one more time he'd rip it to shreds and feed it to them etc. She said she was reporting us.

DH is now blaming the entire thing on me. Apparantly we have to move as the area is full of "fuckwits" and he 'can't be doing with it anymore' etc etc

I don't think he realises how close he is to having to find a bedsit of his own anyway. I'm just fed up of everything.

OP posts:
Flightattendant27 · 06/03/2009 14:27

I hate to think what this is doing to his blood pressure. British gas would wind anyone up tho

But Tescos as well?

He's not coping with normal interaction. It is serious when everyday things can upset him so much...best of luck with the GP, do you have an appointment yet? Will you go with him? He might be tempted to minimise the problem iyswim.

Mummyfor3 · 06/03/2009 16:06

Yes, go with him to see GP, it is really useful to get info from another source.
Also consider seeing GP yourself, it might be worth your while to get some advice/counselling to support you. It really does sound awful to have to live with that kind of atmosphere all the time. Agree with Flightattendant, that Tesco man should be welcomed . Your DH did do well though to avoid all out verbal punchup with British Gas person, so well done to him.

clam · 06/03/2009 18:48

Yeah, I was impressed with his strategies there. He knew he was about to lose it but, possibly due to your chat, dealt with it. That's a good sign. As well as being willing to go to the GP.

ABetaDad · 06/03/2009 18:54

Geetar - as well as going to see the GP he also needs to go to Citizens Advice if the money worries are personal finance issues.

You will probably need to go with him to that meeting as well.

DeeBlindMice · 07/03/2009 09:20

Given how bad things sounded at the start of the thread, I think you've both done really well to get to the stage of him seeking help for an acknowledged problem.

ABetaDad's advice is excellent

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